Dating : How to break up with someone because there’s no « spark »?
He’s a nice guy and I like hanging out with him, but I don’t get that « butterflies in the stomach/falling in love » thing after about a month of dating. Any ideas?
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He’s a nice guy and I like hanging out with him, but I don’t get that « butterflies in the stomach/falling in love » thing after about a month of dating. Any ideas?
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I’d just be honest and say ‘I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and have enjoyed our time together but I just don’t feel like this is the connection I’m looking for. I wish you all the best!’
I literally just had to do this less than 24hrs ago to someone I was dating. I said it like how it was. it made it wayy easier too since I wasn’t fumbling for words “nicer” words. “i’m not feeling a spark and that’s bothering me”. and go from there.
Just be straight up, tell him that you don’t feel the same way you did but that you enjoyed the time.. And also there isn’t always going to be a butterfly feeling, at some point you’re with the person because you love their company.
I have too ask have you guys ever had to butterflies in the stomach feeling with other guys that you were dating? If so did you have it at the start of the relationship? I’ve been asking my married friends things like this lately because I’ve never had it or felt that spark that you see on TV .
Is he physically attractive to you?
I think it’s a matter of effort. Are they making an effort to try new things, take you out on a fun date, be creative?
The feeling I’m getting from your post is that they are, for some reason, acting lazy or like a stoner who doesn’t make any effort.
If they aren’t making that effort then yeah I would try to at least talk to them about it subtly or consider ending it, because it’s unacceptable for a guy to not make the effort, in my view.
On the other hand if a guy *is* making a strong effort, and you find each other attractive, and you like being around him, then what would the problem be?