Dating : How to Get Asked Out in Your 20’s
Hi!
So, I’m 25, just out of college, I’ve only had 1 serious relationship. I can’t seem to get men my age to ask me out or even call me back after 1 date.
I never bring up things like politics, religion, relationships or things of that nature on a first date. I’m wondering if it’s me that’s the problem?
I do my best to stay in shape, be in good physical & mental health, but I don’t understand why guys aren’t interested in me.
I usually go straight from work to home. I’ve been using dating apps with no luck. I would love to go out & meet someone in person. I totally understand that most guys are only looking for hookups and not a relationship, but I’m kind of over that phase in my life.
I’m wondering if it’s there’s something I need to work on myself? I appreciate any advice you can offer!
Have you tried, I dunno, doing the asking? I bet it might go better than you expect.
I’ll be honest, based on your entire post here, you sound boring. You sound like you play it safe, and because you haven’t had many dates, you don’t state what you are looking for in a partner (to avoid scaring anyone off).
Don’t be afraid to talk about things that are controversial. Sooner or later, it’s going to arise anyway…. you don’t have to go out of your way to put people down for their views or « cancel them » as a person… but you can identify through light controversial discussion that they may or may not be for you.
Your idea that « most guys are only looking for sex » is also false. Many guys love sex because we try before we buy…. and we takes what we can gets… but at the same time, we many are also looking for a meaningful relationship. You can weed fuckboys out early enough in the game (usually). Pros are pros, but for the average « playa, » he’s not going to stick around too long if he’s not getting his tip wet within a few days.
If nobody’s asking you out, there’s either something you haven’t noticed but there’s also an important thing too…Do you not know anyone whom you’d want to be romantically involved with? If you do ask him out, and if not go meet some dudes and do what you can to spark that interest..
How often do you go out? I pretty such you had opportunities to do so during college. Also what about friends? Perhaps you could talk to them about setting up a blind date with someone. Go out with them to parties, music festivals, film festivals, beaches, restaurants. Who knows you might find a potential mate around those areas.
Same applies to women as for men, if nobody asks you out, well try to do the first move yourself. It will work way better than you imagine.
Also don’t loose time, tell soon about the fact you search for something serious if you have luck in your researches
A lot of men are looking for relationships. You just have to weed out the fuckboys first. You won’t meet people in person if you go straight home from work. Why didn’t dating apps work for you? A young woman that stays in shape should get many matches. Are you getting matches but no dates? First dates but no second ones?
Ur 25, if u keep telling men or showing vibe that ur looking for serious relationship at ur age. it’s little chance u find a guy like that, and they are very very boring men.
u gotta learn to enjoy body of men, find the pleasure of sex without vibing relationships. and be happy just being single. This is the only way to get alpha male.
Men that love sex and full of passion are fun to be Relationship with. you just gotta make them love you.
Those men that want relationship and not sex. Too formal stuff, are boring