Dating : Anyone else think exclusive FwB is pointless and stupid?
Why the fuck would you (as a single person) want to have sex with one person when you are literally available on the market?
“Oh yeah I can’t have sex with you because I have a friend who I have sex with even though I’m single.”
It just makes room for one of you possibly getting attached and the other one not getting attached (or vice versa) and hearts being shattered to pieces.
Sorry for ranting but I can’t understand why anyone would put themselves through that. One guy told me earlier that he was looking for a relationship and I told him I wasn’t really looking for that right now, but we still talked and he suggested maybe hooking up—I said okay I’m totally fine with that. Then he asked “can we be exclusive?” I responded with “uhhhh no? Why?” he said he didn’t want to share me with other dudes and I said “yeah no that’s not what fwb is”, he got mad and said he didn’t want to “be another meatstick” and blocked me.
I thought it was fucking hilarious.
It just makes no sense to me.
STDs.
I personally would want an elusive FWB until I were to find my next boyfriend. It is mostly to avoid sleeping around and getting STDs yet still satisfying me sexually. If I were to be in this type of encounter it would pretty much be temporary until either on of us decides that the set up is no longer working. I think that this kind of set up is okay if people are only sexually of the market but can emotionally explore other relationships, simply to avoid the spreading of STDs.
Exclusive FwB is a relationship in all but name.
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I sort of get what he means though, nothing makes me feel more insecure than being with someone that could be with other guys. Thats why I can’t do fwb or hookups, fucks with my head.
til now it has worked great for me, i personally dont want to be in a relationship with anyone and neither does she (atleast thats what i was told).
» told me earlier that he was looking for a relationship » when he said we will hook up he was just keeping things going
and why are you mad ?
> Why the fuck would you (as a single person) want to have sex with one person when you are literally available on the market?
Because if you get herpes its with you for life.
Just because it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it’s stupid. I get nervous around new people and worry about STDs so I prefer my FWB to be an exclusive fuck buddy. Catching feels may be a side effect, but both people are aware of that going into it.
Personally I dislike fwb.
Kind of like people ask reddit about breaking up with their FWB/fuck-buddy. Lol.
I think everyone is in different places in their lives. Someone could be moving, just got out of a relationship, or is focusing on their life.
FWB just means they want someone to hookup with that they don’t respect while looking for someone that they do respect.
I’ve done it for STD issues.
Or because I honestly really like this person.
I haven’t overlapped FWB and part is me is hesitant because it just doesn’t seem right.
But you are totally right about it leaving room to catch feelings.
I don’t know, I understand him at least. I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone who, at the same time, has sex with other people, if available.
Gross.
To hell if you think I’m going to get an STD from someone who’s sleeping around and « just having fun ».
Also with your point on how people can get attached, that can happen any time when fucking, it’s human nature. Would you rather fuck one guy (exclusive fwb) and have a fallout, or fuck 20 guys throughout the year and have 10 of them becoming emotionally attached/unstable after only banging you once or twice, 5 guys that dgaf and had the same intentions as you, and 5 that were just plain awful in bed and you have to ghost them?
I’m open to criticism/feedback, but thats how I think of it.
I think it’s dumb too.
Non exclusive makes more sense lmao
Whatever. No sex for him lol
Yeah it’s dumb. But you know, live and let die right?
I say I’m exclusive but I’m not. I have 2 women as pets.