Dating : How to get to know a guy when he’s a bad texter?
Met a guy through an app on Thursday, hung out with him on Sunday for 7 hours. Made out, no sex. Played board games, watched movies. I want to get to know him more, but he is bad at texting.
He texted on Monday: “Fair warning, I’m really bad at texting. You’ve been warned”
I said: “You don’t have to talk to me if you don’t want to!”
To which he replied: “If I didn’t want to talk to you, I’d make it clear, I just prefer to hangout in person and/or talk on the phone 🤷♂️”
After that, we probably exchanged 5 texts and that’s it.
I feel like texting every day helps two strangers get more comfortable with each other and thus, makes a faster connection IF there is one.
How do I get to know him more? If it’s only by hanging out in person, it won’t happen every day, so I feel like it is going to take longer to get to know each other… but maybe I’m just wrong?
Any opinions/ideas/thoughts??
TL;DR – How to get close to a guy who isn’t good at texting?
> I just prefer to hangout in person and/or talk on the phone
Hanging out in person and talking on the phone.
Have you ever thought about calling instead of texting ? (text first and ask tho)
You can call, you can facetime, or meet IRL
reading a few, I think you are afraid to talk on the phone like most people. I am 32M and the recent girl who I want to be with doesn’t mind talking on the phone. I for one am very vocal and talk ALOT, I love chatting. so give a call
This guy knows what he’s doing.
Like he suggested, either meet up or call. He’s probably screening for signs of clinginess from your end. Chill, relax and have fun on the dates, if things go smoothly, you’ll have years ahead of you to figure him out.
the main thing you need to remember is that good communication is also important. You don’t have to talk everyday , at the beginning, to feel and build a connection.
My example is that for me I don’t text often but I talk about 1 hour to two hours every week with my girlfriend when we’re not together . and then when we are together, we probably spend a half-day or full-day together on the weekends.
now granted, we both have the personality where we don’t need constant interaction with each other , so this works for us. You’ll need to find the thing that works for you both, but keep in mind that doesn’t necessarily mean that you get everyday, all day long communication
the other concern you have about not being familiar enough to call him for casual conversation is valid too.
And what that could mean is, you don’t need to call him as much. let some time and days go between communication while you two are getting to know each other and going out. Make the conversations have value rather than talking until you ran out of things to say and gave the conversation wane again and again.
> How to get close to a guy who isn’t good at texting?
Don’t send words. Send boobs.