Dating : How to handle someone that just got out of a LTR?
I’ve known this girl for about 12 years, there’s always been something between us but due to certain circumstances it just never really became anything. After not talking to her for a few years we finally got together the other night and really hit it off. The thing is she just broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years a couple days ago and I didn’t find this out until we were hanging out the other night. I know she’s interested but she says she doesn’t want to drag me into her situation. How should I handle this? I don’t want to wait too long and miss my opportunity but I also don’t want to rush her knowing she just got out of a LTR and look like a prick.
Allow her space to heal. Once she is ready and if she is still interested she can approach you. If you try to insert yourself in to her situation I think it will end with a poor outcome for you.
I’d say continue to spend some time with her as a friend. If you haven’t seen each other in a while, and you hit it off, have some more fun together and don’t make it more than that.
I timed this really really right once, and waited too long recently and someone else took a chance and I’m left not knowing if I had one. You definitely don’t want to force it and be pushy, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be a good friend to her with nothing else implied. You don’t want to be months too early, but when you think she seems like she has her spark back, go for it. Because you also don’t want to find out you were a day too late.