Dating : How to ramp things up physically, really push forwards in a relationship/dating?
Here’s the story. Matched with a girl on a dating app. Went for 3 dates (drinks, zoo, drinks/showed her my new place). Had a good time on each, we seem to get along well. Unfortunately, I didn’t kiss her during any of those dates, and she ended up going on a 2 week vacation out of country with her mom. After the 3rd date, I texted her saying that I regretted not kissing her, and she basically responded by saying, yes, I should have. While on her vacation, I noticed that she made a couple of changes to her dating profile with new pictures, etc.
Anyways, she’s back now, and we went for dinner last night and a walk. We finished the date (4th date overall) with me dropping her off at home on foot. I asked her « so, what are you thinking? How do you think this is going »? She said that she was thinking the same thing earlier. She thinks we get along well, always have something to talk about, don’t really disagree with much, but didn’t say much else. I responded by saying, « would this help? », and went in for the kiss. Kiss went fairly well, with her going in for more a couple of times.
So my question is, where do I go from here? The reason it took me so long to kiss her, is that she’s just not the most animated personal. I just have a hard time reading her, and figuring out where’s the sitting. Now, obviously have a good kiss last night is a good sign, but I can’t get over that when I asked her how things were going, she seemed kind of wishy washy, didn’t feel strongly one way or another.
I’m planning on either asking her to go to a baseball game with me (something we have discussed before), or inviting her over for dinner at my place. How do I really push things forward? I get the sense that she might not be 100% committed possibly because I haven’t shown that I’m super interested in her in a sense (taking so long to kiss her, not really being too physical with her). I feel like I need to push on that a bit to show my interest. How?
She seems a little shy in the relationship area. Go slow…all will be revealed
Netflix and chill
Easiest way to show interest is to have conversations…listen…ask questions, give feedback, engage your brain in trying to have her explain her thinking. Please…don’t make the mistakes I did by trying to read into her reactions and comments what she wants. Hell to pay later. Be smarter than me.
Dude…at least now you understand that you shouldn’t wait so long to kiss someone you like. « You should have »….ouch! Let that be a lesson to you. The more you think « If I don’t try to kiss her or fuck her she’ll take me more seriously »…WRONG! You may not learn this now, but you’ll learn it years don’t the road as the universe will show you over and over.
I think your issue is investing WAY too much in future plans, relationship thoughts, etc. When a man does this too soon, a woman will pull away. All you need to do is take her on good dates, live in the present and just show her good times. That way, she associates FUN with you. And if she does that, it won’t be long before she will ask you to be exclusive. Let the woman bring up exclusivity talk, let it be her own idea. Guys running around trying to lock down women like that make women feel like they are being pushed out of their feminine essence. Just be fun, romantic and dependable….you’ll be surprised how it all rolls out.