Dating : I (20’s F) really want to reach out to a guy (20’s m) who I lost touch with a couple years ago…
But I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do. We were both at different points in our lives. After we met a couple of times, he was stationed in Europe, and even invited me to go out there to visit, but I wasn’t comfortable with that since we only met up a couple of times previously, and I didn’t have money to travel like that at the time. This invite via Snapchat, was also out of the blue, & two years after we last met up.
I most certainly didn’t feel comfortable with someone like that paying for my travels either (not that he offered, but if he did) nor is it expected.
I was flattered by him inviting me out while saying how he missed me (even though at this point it had been about 2 years since we last met up IRL.) I also didn’t know if I liked him enough to do something so extravagant.
The one thing that turned me off is when we last met up, I saw he had a picture of a naked cosplay girl on his phone screen when he sat it down on the bar. Most people would’ve brushed it off, but it just felt icky to me. I didn’t say anything and tried my best to ignore it and to focus on him as a person.
He seems like a good person at heart, and was very affectionate. It just didn’t feel right at the time, since he was getting ready to be stationed in Europe for an indefinite amount of time.
I noticed that we’re still connected on Snapchat, but it looks like he removed me as friend since I can’t see his snap score. I don’t currently use any other forms of social media, nor do I have his number anymore, so Snapchat would be the only option for me to reach out.
Looking back, I could’ve done more to at least maintain a meaningful connection from a distance, but chose not to subconsciously. I regret loosing this connection. I’m under the impression he might have a gf too, since he deleted me.
For the past month or so he’s been randomly, yet strongly coming up in my mind. I feel compelled to re-add him and attempt to reconnect since we’re both more grown now (late 20’s,) but I’m so afraid. I also would rather try and see what happens knowing I have nothing to lose, rather then be stuck with this feeling. I also don’t know what his personal/dating life is like currently, so I don’t want to accidentally cause chaos.
This guy really liked me, even from a distance. I need some guidance on this…
TLDR; I lost touch with a guy I was briefly seeing from the military a few years ago. It looks like he unadded me from Snapchat probably after realizing our connection wasn’t going anywhere at the time because of differences in our paths at the time, and living in different countries after he was stationed in Europe. I’m not sure if he’s even still active.
