Dating : I am absolutely confused
I hooked up with this girl after a party. We had a great time. She kept saying I was attractive af and that I was funny. Afterwards she kept talking about « next time let’s do this and that », and even kept bringing up things like hanging out the next day and going to the gym together.
I know it sounds like way too much for a hookup and I completely agree but we had a bunch in common so I was gonna ride the wave and see where it goes.
Then the next day I shoot her a text about going fishing (which is what she was super pumped to do) and all I got back was crickets. So I waited til the next day to ask how the bar she went to was and I got a one words response. Me being determined I asked again to see if she still wanted to go fishing and I haven’t gotten a response since.
What the actual hell. I am the most confused I’ve ever been.
Maybe she was drunk, caught up in the moment but actually has a bf.
My assumption is she was probably drunk and saying things she didn’t mean.
You should say: « Nothing but crickets, huh? We sure could use some of those when we were supposed to go fishing »
She does not care I am so sorry
Maybe try calling her versus texting…
You got played. She probably has another dude.
If she’s starting out at 100 mph after meeting you for 5 seconds, just know that it’s not real because it’s not based on much. It seemed like she was super interested in you, but this is just how she acts with new guys. She comes on fast, and she’s gone just as quickly.
Ya scratched her itch. Were you hoping for a wedding?
First: Hookup means you had sex. If you didn’t have sex, you didn’t hookup.
You made way more out of it than she did. You may not know how to read body language, facial expressions, and interpret « woman speak » very well.
> hanging out the next day and going to the gym together
Those are « buddy » things,…not romantic date options. These are Friend Zone items. She was telling you, « *Let’s just be friends* ».
> Me being determined I asked again to see if she still wanted to go fishing and I haven’t gotten a response since.
Forget about it. Don’t reach out to her again. If she reaches out to you then just offer a date,…a real date,…not Friend Zone stuff. If she accepts, great. If she doesn’t, then say, « *Ok, well let me know if you change your mind* » and end the conversation. You need to learn to be the leader in the interaction, not the follower.
You moved too fast. Came off as desperate. Next time slow down a bit