Dating : I ended up messaging him for closure
So I’m on mobile and can’t link my past post but if you look at my post history you’ll find the whole story lol. But basically I got ghosted by a guy back in February after hanging out for a month. It really hurt because he was the first guy I went on a date with and I couldn’t get over him. Well I messaged him today and he actually replied. He said he didn’t feel like we had much in common. So I replied why didn’t you just tell me that instead of ignoring me every time I tried talking to you. His response was that we didn’t know each other that long and he didn’t think I would care. So I responded of course I would care. He was the first guy I went on a date with. And even though I’m shy and quiet I did like him and wanted to get to know him more. He didn’t respond even though I know he read it. I don’t feel any better. It just shows how much he really doesn’t care about me. You would think that would make me not like him anymore but nope still like him for some reason. I seriously don’t know what’s wrong with me. I hate myself lol.
To be fair, it was one date. Would you prefer he leads you on for a couple weeks? Dating is rough though, be ready for PLENTY of what you just described.
Sucks he ghosted you but there are plenty of other options out there. Try and go out and have a good time. Get a phone number or just chat with a guy. You’ll be good.
I may be wrong, but I believe what you are feeling is your insecurity of “not being accepted” and not true feelings for him. You are seeking acceptance due to low self esteem. Maybe have some self help and that area and see if you feel better. Just my thought.
My dear, you had a connection with him, your feelings were valid, ten dates to me is enough for you to get feels. I know you’re thinking you will like him forever, you won’t be interested in anyone else, but I know from experience that isn’t true. You may always remember him, but with more dating experience you »ll see what a turd he was to fuck you over that way.
For now, feel hurt and confused, but only for a few days, okay? Also, think about why you still like him, he wasn’t respectful or nice to you. What is it that you like about him.
People want what they cant have….
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I used to like to close contacts, however considering i get ghosted by everyone it becomes hard work, and the « no response » is a response in itself, what winds me up is when i get status messages every week with « hey, been busy, how are you », clearly they have no « want » to contact me so just woman up and stop messaging me.