Dating : I feel like dating is wrong…
In our society, dating has become a manufactured product. People use apps and go on dates left and right and hookup, and I feel it’s numbing the very meaning of real love. People 50 years ago used to court each other and commit themselves, and even after decades of fighting, they still stick together because they don’t focus on the negatives and aren’t used to leaving after simple fights. Picture this… you’re 25 and a long time ago most people were married at that age, but instead you’re dating a girl, and you’ve had about 10 girlfriends in your life. You get into a fight with this one and since you’re so used to breaking up if the relationship takes a downturn, you do it again. And eventually when you settle down you make some kids, and divorce because you’re so used to leaving. Those kids are now affected, and then they become screwed up people dating one day causing problems. And now you have generations of shitty people getting used to breaking up when things get tough making shittier kids and so on. I don’t know if my point came across clear since I’m not feeling well, so it’s hard to type, but it’s just something I’ve been feeling. I honestly think today’s society with dating is not as effective as courting used to be. And with apps and hookup culture, it’s gotten worse. After all, marriage is for creating a better society through raising kids.
If you’ve had 10 girlfriends by the age 25,
it’s you hunny
>People 50 years ago used to court each other and commit themselves, and even after decades of fighting, they still stick together because they don’t focus on the negatives and aren’t used to leaving after simple fights.
Millenials have a lower divorce rate than previous generations.
well, my great grandpa walked out on my great grandma and their kids. this really messed up my grandma emotionally and mentally – especially since as the oldest kid, she had to take over. and this was during the Chinese era when footbinding was still going on, so – I’d say things are way better now.
Thing is, times have changed. Yeah back then couples weren’t breaking up/divorcing that much but that’s because it was looked down upon. Women were taught to be housewives, thus pushing the narrative that they can’t be independent without a man. Also, as someone else mentioned, they didn’t the technology and luxuries that we have today so it makes it easier for us to meet people vs back then.
This is just how it is now. The reason courting and marriage worked well in the 1950s was because there was NO internet, NO social media, NO online dating, NO leisure travel (unless for the 1%), and you met everyone you’d meet by age 20 for the most part.
Now, the opposite is true. Its just how it is. You can’t go back in time. You adapt or get left behind.
Also, many married people were secretly cheating in the 1950s and getting away with it because there was almost no way they could ever get caught. Probably more than now. And women couldn’t work ideally, so they stayed married. Many were in abusive relationships.