Dating : I just want someone to hold me and call me pretty.
I honestly just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried dating apps, I’ve tried reddit and I’ve even tried changing up my look (buying skirts, wearing makeup) and no one seems interested, the only complements I get are from older women who call me cute. I’m so sick and tired of it honestly, it’s so damn mentally exhausting… I feel like such an ugly looser compared to my friends who just have better luck. I just want a guy to complement me for once in my life, I want to feel attractive and pretty like everyone else around me. I just don’t know what else to do, am I really that unattractive that men just don’t have an interest at all?
Edit: please stop telling me that most men feel this way. I get it, I just wanted a place to vent. And please stop sending me death threats and calling me names. I’m so sick of it everytime i post on this sub.
How is it my fault that most men don’t get complements?! What do you people want me to fucking do about it! If you want me to cry then so be it, some of you guys are so fucking cruel. I’m not afraid to off myself, I just wanted a chance at finding love first before I do so please piss off and leave me alone.
Girl, relax. I haven’t seen you but I KNOW you don’t look unattractive. Forget the guys and older women for a bit. Dress up in a way that makes you look « God damn! », when you look at the mirror. Look at yourself naked in the mirror and learn to be comfortable with that person. Do it for yourself first. It’s easy for me to say, but I’ll let you know it can be done. I did! Feel free to DM if you wanna talk.
Damn these comments are brutal don’t listen to assholes
You can dm me if you want I’ll be honest but I’m sure your just in a dry spell rn. For all you know there could be several guys who thought you were breathtaking and just didn’t have the courage to say something it’ll be okay though I promise
I don’t understand how so many guys here moan about « men aren’t supported on this sub » while full on acting like sociopaths when it comes to women’s posts. Seriously, I see so many men’s vent posts get awards and tons of upvotes and empathetic comments, yet they still constantly moan about no positive replies. What the hell is up with this sub?
Same
*hugs* Just do you. You is unique and you is pretty
Honestly, as a guy I kinda feel like I’ve been sailing this boat for quite a while. It’s rough but alot of the comments on here are right! Learn to love yourself. Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Self love will create a strong sense of self confidence and confidence is generally a desired trait.
You seem like you want something genuine though, but tinder and online dating sucks for this considering we live in a hook up culture unfortunately. But please don’t give up! There have been several guys out there that want to tell you that you’re pretty. In our day in age though, alot of people seem to either struggle to communicate, are scared of rejection or the social ramifications of saying the wrong thing.
TLDR don’t give up love, finding a decent guy can be hard. But they are out there!
Edit:just realized your name and I love it
I feel like everyone feels like this at some point or another in life. Maybe just try and focus on things they make you feel pretty for the time being. It’s a rough spot to be in.
A boyfriend won’t fix the emptiness you feel or the gap in your self-esteem. In fact that’s a dangerous mindset because a guy WILL come along and compliment you like crazy. Why? He might want sex or have ulterior motives. He may have an insecure attachment and becomes very clingy and desperate towards women. You will get swept in endless bad decisions if validation is what’s leading your decisions. You should be thinking about what you want in a guy and how he could enhance your lifestyle. Therapy could help, reddit won’t fix this.
Please don’t listen to the person who said you feel like a man. Lots of women understand what it’s like to not be considered attractive.
I remember I used to wish that, then I eventually accepted that I’d be single for life. When someone did call me beautiful, I wasn’t even flattered by it because it didn’t sound like he meant and just wanted to see my reaction
i don’t understand what’s up with this sub as of lately and why so many people are so angry, as evidenced by the comments on this post. it’s incredibly disappointing.
Send me a pic and i will answer honestly if you deserve a hug and pretty compliment or if not you will have a total stranger honnest opinion and a consolation hug plus someone to call an asshole without repercusions.
Out of the sarcastic part, keep doing what you seem making you feel prettier. If you find yourself pretty wth some outfit or makeup, stick with it.
If you accept yourself already don’t change
If you are unconfortable with your body, do something to make it looking better and make you feel better in it.
Have you ever tried seeing an image consultant? Maybe you just need help polishing your look 🙂
Don’t know anything, but keep going on, just keep some self confidence and try and be outgoing and you’ll find people. Online dating is shit for everyone but there is someone.
But sure! You’re pretty!
let’s start a chat! we can help each other and give fashion advice;)
So you feel like a man. Welcome to the club. Also i doubt you are ugly, probably just see yourself that way.
The average guy has the same problems with never being complimented
If you want I can give you my honest opinion. However, I am nothing special in the looks department so my opinion might not matter too much lmao.
Why do you think that? Guys probably think your pretty but are too afraid or just nervous to ask you out or get your phone number.
External validation is appealing in theory, but it’s superficial and unsatisfying.
Okay I didn’t check her profile cause that’s weird, but the point still stands about creepy guys threatening her
I don’t see a pic in your profile, but like 95% of women are pretty, so I doubt you are an exception. Take care of yourself.
use this as training for not needing validation from others
I think you just have to try and stand your ground
If you wont value yourself, how will someone else ?
i know the comment section didn’t pass the vibe check, but I’m sure you’ll be okay.
Do whatever makes you feel good & happy. There’s are some tough days, but that’s what makes you stronger right?
Other things will certainly fall in place when they need to.
Omg please don’t do anything you wouldn’t even have the opportunity to regret. Dating is hard and it often fucking sucks… a lot.
Honestly, other than maybe saying to work out, there really isn’t much that can be done about not being noticed enough by men. That said, you’re clearly very upset about things and understandably so. People will probably rip me a new one for suggesting this, but have you considered getting surgery?
You also said you’ve used dating apps and they haven’t worked? Knowing how most guys are, this probably says a lot more about the guys you’re going after than it does you. Have you considered that maybe you’re just going for guys that are “out of your league?”
The last thing I want to leave you with is something I frequently have to remind myself of as I stumble through the dating world: not everyone will find you attractive, but once you find your person – someone that will find you attractive – it will all be worth it.
People are crazy aren’t they!?
you tried tinder and NO ONE seemed interested … no matches? thats quite rare for a woman.
You are feeling what most men feel. Keep that in mind, it’s precious insight.
Lmao now you know what guys feel like haha
Post a pic, or at least describe yourself.
That way you can get more accurate advice…
I always love the way posts like this one imply that men who are not attractive to the OP are not « someone », i.e. not people.
Maybe work on that attitude first, girl.
Master chief? Mind telling me what you’re doing on Reddit?
Sir, telling this chick she’s pretty.