Dating : I just want to know something
Recently I’ve had some trouble getting back out there is the dating scene. These past couple years I’ve learnt to accept my looks and body. Not trying to be cocky or anything but I look good. Not anywhere near the looks of an Adonis but good nonetheless. The only places where I’d get compliments is anywhere BUT where I live, usually by people at restaurants or at stores. And I just realized why. My personality might be pretty bad. I usually am the funny guy in the group and try to make anyone laugh if it’s appropriate to. But a lot of my friends and people that know me can’t take me seriously. I’ll have a serious discussion with someone if they ask me to. I just want to be a good guy to someone but not a lot of people give me the chance based on how they think they know me. I’ve been thinking of just changing myself all together. But I know that’s not a good idea. Any advice my internet brethren?
As long as you’re not rude or purposefully offensive, don’t change yourself.
Be true to yourself because there are people out there who will love you for all of you
Nobody wants to date a comedian
Obviously I don’t know if this applies to you, just my observations from my own life…
People I’ve met who say they are the “funny guy” in the group really aren’t. They are the guy that tries to be the funny guy and crack jokes or recite memes and then we all politely laugh to spare their feelings but no one is impressed by their actual humor. It’s an off putting, high maintenance personality trait, frankly. The actual funny guy does not claim to be the funny guy, he doesn’t know he’s the funny guy. He’s just saying what comes into his head and he’s kind of amused at everyone thinking it’s hysterical.
I hope you’re not being the high maintenance funny guy because that might be killing your chances. I would do an experiment and stop being funny guy for a while and see if that helps.