Dating : I [M 25] Told my Girlfriend [F 24] I need space – where do I go from here?
Hi all,
To give a bit of background, my girlfriend and I have been dating coming up on 2 years now, and things are getting a little more serious to say the least. However, as this continues, I can’t help but feel myself pull away a bit. This is my first ever long term relationship, so I have nothing to benchmark it towards. However – as things get deeper, I can’t help but think to myself, is this the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with?
She’s an amazing, beautiful girl, and her and I really enjoy being with her. And I do by all accounts love her. However – when I look down the road, I don’t get that stone cold feeling / desire that we need to end up husband and wife/ togethor forever.
To people who have been in relationships and ultimately married their SO, is that feeling something you had all along in your relationship? Is this something that had come and gone as your relationship progressed?
I’m really inside my own head right now and she can feel me pulling back. As of this afternoon I told her I need a little bit of space.
Any kind of advice would be so appreciated.
TL/DR: Ive been with my girl for a few years, and am having second thoughts.
Need space as in you legit need space or need space as in you wanna fuck other people need space ? Dated my ex for 5 years and I did both. Tbh space can be good sometimes to clear your head but that time is valuable. Take that time to reach into yourself and find what it is that you want in life and if she’s apart of that. Do some really deep soul searching . DO NOT I repeat DO NOT FUCK OTHER PEOPLE . It will fuck with your perspective and tie you to people that maybe you were not meant to be tied to.
If you want to see other people but you just don’t want to loose her then your not being fair to her your trying to have cake and eat it to. Just take that time to think about what you really want and is it worth loosing her.
I think we all have that ‘wonder if there’s something better out there’. You’re not getting married and anything could happen in the future. Just go with the flow, don’t think too much about it. She makes you happy so why are you looking elsewhere?