Dating : I (m19) was dumped by my ex about a month ago, and me and this one girl hit it off and I was excited to go out with her until tonight when she sent me nsfw pictures and insinutated sexual things would happen during the date. Is it normal to feel turned off by that? And I don’t understand why I am
I feel guilty and remorseful and I dont know why. Its not like I dont want to do those things and I’m very open about what has happened and what I want
If a guy sent me a pic of his junk before a first date I’d be put off. Having boundaries and preferences is normal.
People have different preferences. It’s okay to feel the way you feel. Maybe you’re more of a romantic and want things to go slower.
regardless of gender: you can feel about it however you want. If you don’t want to see her anymore because of that, that’s okay.
Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable with yourself. Be true to yourself.
Not at all. It took me months to even consider dating again and a similar thing happened to me. I think if you have an in depth relationship with intimacy, you will crave that intimacy rather than sex immediately. Sex can feel very hollow after a relationship like the fun has been sucked out. Take your time getting back into the pool and let her know that while you’re flattered you like a surprise and want to get to know her as well. If that’s what you want she shouldn’t judge you or make you feel bad for it.
25m here. So before your first date she sent you nudes? Yeah it’s normal man. Sometimes when it’s too easy it’s not worth getting. Yeah you might get along well with her but if she’s gonna bang you on the first date you need to worry about that.
If you really want to fuck her, go for it. But make sure and I can’t stress this enough
WEAR A CONDOM. If you need money for a condom I’ll send it over, don’t let one cute girl ruin your life with a kid or with an std.
It’s okay to feel uncomfortable because these were unsolicited. Some people think that men are always up for anything sexual, and that’s just plain out wrong. You’re entitled to not want sex or to refuse her advances.
People are all different. That doesn’t mean you need to accommodate to them if you don’t like it. Personally, I don’t like things too easy and I don’t trust it when it is too easy.
So you do you, but this seems like a short physical relationship looming ahead if you proceed.
Some girls are aggressive some are not. She might think that’s what you want. No body has all the answers. Go out with her and see if its a match if not be honest and move on. Good luck
Well the five guys she sent those pictures to in the last week enjoyed their dates.
Young people do dorky stuff they feel embarrassed about later. If you really like her let her know it seemed a little forward but you’d still like to get to know her. If she can’t deal w it end it.
I mean just gonna say what seems obvious. You got dumped and still feel some emotional attachment to your ex. This is why guilt and remorse are the feelings you get. That shouldnt be how you feel before a first date or when you receive nudes, even if you arent that into the chick.
It’s all context – always. Even women who’ve told me they hate dick pics I’ve caught getting excited about dick picks if the context / person is right. If you get suggestive photos and that turns you off, that’s fine – you’re not a machine that’s programmed to always get excited at the idea of sex.
Well done at least you have your pride
You do you, but some guys would be stoked.
If she does it with you, she probably does it often, which is nasty.
That’s why you’re turned off my brother
You discussed pricing already?
That’s pretty toxic, like if you always wanted a Good Relationship and a great time with a Girl without any intentions of sex on the first date, then it’s great.
This girl’s just desperate or making you horny and in turn it’s pretty much fucked up as I’d see this. Same way how Women get turned off when Men send them Dick pics.
If you’re a Horny guy and just wanna Fuck do it, but if you want her as your GF, sex after a single date isn’t great. A first kiss would be romantic, but she’s taking too much.
Choice is yours pal, if you’re NOT ok cancel the date or just yk, just have a Great Sex, most guys struggle getting laid nowadays use a condom. Don’t NUT in her.
Have Safe Sex
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That would instantly turn me off… EVEN if we were super flirty. It does surprise me that a real human adult woman Would send a man she doesn’t know nude pics If she’s not selling something… but that’s just from stuff I’ve heard from guys.
Idk how it is for the other hetero women (we all know unsolicited pics is a thing and that none of us want to see someone’s junk we haven’t met), but guys lean into sexuality to some degree really fast. Sometimes a sentence in, sometimes a paragraph, often times within the first hour of talking to them.
If I wrote off every guy who hinted at sex before we’ve even gone on one date tbh I would almost
never go on dates…
I (F) also consider myself open minded about sex but this would absolutely put me off if a guy ever did this to me. She can 100% do her thing and I commend her for it, but I feel like you’re just not the kinda guy she’ll click with. And that’s okay! She’ll find someone that’s into that.
There IS also a chance that guys have made her feel like sex was all they wanted from her in the past, and she likes you enough that she really just doesn’t want you to lose interest. If you find that outside of this incident you really like her, maybe talk to her about it. You could just let her know that you want to take things slow (if you do) and that she doesn’t have to feel like she’s rushing herself either.
Nah you might be gay
Personally I get super turned off by sexual stuff from someone before I get to know them. I usually don’t feel that sexually attracted to someone until several dates in after they show interest, so it’s perfectly valid to feel a little uncomfortable with what your date did.
At 19 that would have set the tone for a great night tbh.
Shit, at 30, that would set the tone for a great night.
At 19 that would have set the tone for a great night tbh.
Shit, at 30, that would set the tone for a great night.
Idk, Icancelled on a date because I still felt loyalty to the girl that had just cheated on me and left me. It takes a while to get out of the « I’m only interested in this one person’ mind set.
Honestly I’d say talk with her about it. You aren’t doing anything wrong. People just flirt in different ways. If it made you uncomfortable you should be able to talk to her about it, and if shes a good person she’ll accept this
Probably not the type of “date” you are looking for right now. Also, since you just broke up with someone maybe you’re needing something other than just sex or dating. Figure out another way to make yourself feel better.
No it’s absolutely normal to be turned off by that. And I’ll tell you why.
Because you’re not thirsty or desperate. You reason that a guy has to actually do some charming of the girl before she starts sending pics of her butthole and talking about using your cum as mouthwash.
I bet the first thing you thought of is « Geez, how many other guys has she done this too? »
As men, we need to hunt, we need to earn what we have. That’s why men always want the woman they can never get and ignores the woman who fucks him behind the dumpster outside the nightclub 5 minutes after meeting him.
You’re just a normal guy my man.
it is absolutely normal that’s really violating and she did it without consent. if i were you i wouldn’t continue to see that person. that’s not a healthy or respectful thing she did, and it’s a HUGE red flag.
Could you see the cooter? Is it beat?