Dating : I never had a first date. Why am I literally non-existent for girls?
honestly I don’t know if this is the right place to ask for advice as there are multiple things that I may fucked up in my life. But lately the fact that I never had a first date is killing me.
I’m a 23 years old guy and I never had a first data, first kiss or whatnot. On top of that I don’t have any friends. I don’t have hobbies, since I am a computer nerd and I’ll spent almost all my time on the PC. The only two things that I have in my life is my family and my work.
Lately I feel like that I did something terribly wrong in my life. All people around me are getting into relationships or are already in one. Everywhere I look the things are so much sexualized, everytime this remindes me that there is nobody that loves me or looks after me (in a romantic way). The time when everybody at my age had their first dates, I was presumably sitting at my PC and did not even thought about girls. I was so muched focused to learn new things (PC related) to get a job in the computer system administration branch – which I thankfully did. But now I hate myself for this. I also didn’t make friends, since nobody shared my passion back than.
I feel like I am in an loop: I don’t have any friends -> I can’t meet new friends (since I don’t go into discos, parties, … ) -> I will never meet a girl -> I don’t have any friends … and so on.
I am also very insecure around girls and I am always asking myself what they think about me. But apart from the normal conversation (hello, bye, thanks, ,,,) girls don’t even look at me, it is like I am not existent for them.
So please give me some advice what can I do? Be honest what do you think about a guy with this background story? Do you even consider an insecure guy as a date? Must the « first step » initaited by the guy, which I am insecure at?
I know there are dating apps but I feel uncomfortable to use them, since I have anxiety about getting bad comments about my picture or the worst case not even a single match.
This whole text sounds like I’m begging for some attention to my « problems ». I don’t know, maybe this is true. I felt that had to get this out of my system. On every corner (social media, tv, whatnot) you’ll see sexualized content and content that show a perfect couple, this puts me under so much pressure to feel bad about this whole topic.
Please don’t judge my written english. English is not my native language and I am still learning.
Thanks for reading and maybe for a little tip or advice.