Dating : I think that I just got friend zoned and I dont know what should I do ?
So, I met this girl at a friend’s party about 2-3 weeks ago. We have been talking a lot ever since and the conversations have always been super 50/50. What I mean by that is that she would always start conversations now and there and I was clearly not the only one interested in her. I tried to invite her to parties and I tried to set up plans to see each other. I don’t know why but she was never available. She either had to go at her chalet ( cabin ) or she just couldn’t. Yesterday, we texted and I asked her out for a date for Friday ( today ). Again, she couldn’t, but this time it was because she was going to her friend’s chalet ( cabin ) for a party that had been organized for months. She kinda felt bad when sending that text I think because she said ‘ sorry, I can’t chock her for the party:( » I just replied with » no worries, it’s just unfortunate that it never works out » for which she replied » yea I know, it sucks, its really fucked up that it never works.. » . So now at that moment, I felt like asking the question because I needed to know if she was still interested. I said ‘ Are you still interested in doing something together, because the summer just began » ( meaning that there is still time to do something. She replied a few hours later » to know each other yea!, but maybe not for something to happen between us » I felt like I just got friend zoned. QUESTION 1: Was that a friend zone? Because after that I sent a gif ‘ friend zoned ‘ as a joke. She replied with ‘ ahahahahha I never said that something would happen between us, however never say never »
QUESTION 2: what does that last text mean according to you. I feel lost
QUESTION 3: since she said that she would want to do something to know each other better, should I still ask her for something later? or was that just a way of saying NO I DONT CARE ABOUT YOU
Woman here.
The other comments are unnecessarily harsh so I wanted to give another opinion.
From what you wrote you both are interested in each other and if you explicitly wrote ‘date’ but she’s writing it off because she’s busy, then she’s busy and it’s good that you’re respecting her time (like you respect anyone’s time.)
Q1: It doesn’t sound like you’re friendzoned because you asked her on a date and she’s not saying 100% no, only that she’s busy. Your question of ‘are you still interested in doing something together’ might translate to you asking for intimacy rather than a date. She took the friendzoned gif well and is still not saying no.
Q2: maybe she just needs to get to know you more first and maybe clarify that you want to as well. Never say never means dating is still on the table, but once again, get to know her more.
Q3: Yes! or instead phrase it like: you seem really busy so would you mind texting me the next time you’re free! I have a good plan for a date 🙂
Good luck!! I think you have a good chance with her!!
1. yes
2. friend zoned
3. Keep it moving friend
Friendzone is just what it says, she views you as a « friend » not a romantic interest.
> She replied with ‘ ahahahahha I never said that something would happen between us, however never say never »
Yeah youre in the friendzone.
Solution to this is to move on with your life and stop talking to her. Invest your time in people who want you as much as you want them.
You are in the backup beta bux zone friendo. You are her safety net after she rides the cock carousel and hits the wall. Stop talking to her and have some more self respect. You deserve better than to be strung along by someone.
Man don’t catch feelings. Those are the worst. I’d rather catch herpes than feelings. At least they just kinda itch/sting.
If you can emotionally detach from every girl you meet, this stuff won’t matter to you. The « friend zone » is a world that exists when you haven’t pressed the right buttons, turned her off, or she was never really into you. Regardless of how this goes, your best bet is to give her close to nothing. Stay in just enough contact for her to keep you on the backburner, but don’t feed the beast. Don’t go out of your way for her. Don’t try to be funny/entertaining. Give short replies and wait a good bit to send them. If she gets her stuff together you can adjust accordingly, but I’m nobodies « backup ». If we’re chilling, you’re adding value to my life. I ain’t paying for shit, I ain’t treating you like a girlfriend, and if we fuck you better get your own ass home cause I ain’t cuddling/letting you work me.
You can be more diplomatic, but don’t waste your time; hold your ground.