Dating : If you’re struggling with online dating, get your profile reviewed
Have you ever written a paper that was a straight A in your mind, but when you got it back, it was a C-? Then you start complaining to your friends about your asshole professor’s grading bias, and your friends ask to read your paper and proceed to rip your arguments to shreds.
Peer review of any variety is extremely important whether you’re in school, at work, or, in this guess, on a dating app. Most of the complaint posts regarding online dating on this sub revolve around two key issues: not getting matches (in the case of men) and attracting the wrong crowd (usually women).
In the men’s case, many of the profiles are just horrible and low-effort. The pictures are blurry, in weird angles, taken on your couch, etc. I would know, been there, done that. Recently, I’ve seen a lot of guys complain about not getting matches/dates due to their height, race, face, whatever. I’m not saying these issues are nonexistent, but it’s very possible that it’s just your profile that’s destroying your chances. Luckily, you can improve that!
As for the women, I see multiple posts a day where a woman says that she got ghosted after she slept with the guy. Well, if this only happened once, then I’m sorry, but if this happens ALL THE TIME, then that’s a pattern. Have you thought that perhaps your profile is attracting a certain kind of person? This can also be improved, I think, relatively easily.
Anyways, it’s just a good idea to get others’ input on your profile before you completely give up. I know women probably do this more than guys since women are more group-oriented, but I think everyone can benefit from this. Sometimes, we’re just oblivious to our actions since we’re so used to the flow of things, and a wake up call may be in order. Ask your friends, ask your coworkers, ask your family. If you have no one to ask, then perhaps that’s the first problem that you need to solve.
Lol man.
You seriously don’t understand. Picture quality means really little if you aren’t attractive to them.
If you’re an ugly looking guy, getting better quality photos is only going to emphasize that ugliness even more. Now a woman will be able to see exactly the poor shape of your jaw, those acne scars, those weird looking eyes etc.
I say « ugly » in a very loose sense, because women deem 80% of guys as below average looking. That means many average to decent looking guys get placed in the ugly camp.
>Ask your friends, ask your coworkers, ask your family.
You think they’re going to be honest? They’ll just give you politically correct answers or steer you in the wrong direction. No one really wants to see other people succeed sexually/romantically, *especially* if they’re not succeeding in that area themselves.
100% this – I think the reason women are seen as more successful on dating apps is because often women are putting substantially more effort into their profiles, curating the right blend of pictures, having nice looking photos taken by friends, group shots, solo pics that aren’t selfies (not saying this is every woman’s profile, just in general). Whereas men, even some really attractive ones, don’t have a bio, only have blurry pics or large group pics, some random selfies in their car. I « fixed » one of my friend’s profiles when he said he wasn’t really getting matches, and went through his photo reel and added some new photos, edited them for brightness, and threw in an action shot of him rowing crew. He said a few hours later that the difference in the amount of matches he was getting was ridiculous. Maybe the lesson from all of this is that guys just need to get their friends to take more photos of them 😛
This happens to me a lot, I always try to put nice pictures as my profile pic on chatting websites but if the guy asks for a live pic as soon as most of them see my live pic, 99% of all guys will end the chat even if they had said I looked « pretty » or « cute » in my profile pic but as soon as they see a live pic or one that I didn’t try as hard in, they end the chat