Dating : I’m baffled
I have a date tonight with someone I met on a dating app. I usually am fine with these and they go well. I am struggling with this one, tho. It just seems unreal. This person is someone I’ve been talking to for like 4 hours a night for the past 3 nights and we have a great connection.
He’s certainly the person he claims to be as he has a ton of pictures and they are in a local, public area I recognize. He apparently lives like less than a mile away from me, too. He seems to be a male version of me in personality and he isn’t interested in just a hook up and says he wants a real date and to possibly have more after.
What’s the problem? He’s way, way out of my league. I’m not an insecure person and usually have no problem dating attractive men but this is just astounding. He looks like he could be a movie star. I’m like a 6 and he’s a 9. I’m also 10 years older than him.
I am actually considering canceling because what in the actual hell. there’s no way I have a real shot here. I’m considering all kinds of possibilities, like he needs something or just hasn’t really looked at my pictures closely
I’m dumbfounded. I don’t want to show up and end up embarassed.
If your pictures are accurate and recent, I think you’re completely overthinking this. Relax. Have a good time. It’s a date not marriage. He knows what you look like and finds you attractive. Personality wise you two click. GO!
He doesnt look like anything special lol
You say you’re not an insecure person, but this post screams insecurity. Read it over!
We rarely ever see ourselves as others see us.. maybe to him you’re a 9 too. Maybe he has a thing for older partners. Maybe to him you’re the whole package and looks just aren’t all its about.
All of this is irrelevant though, if you don’t have your own back. Be your biggest advocate.
« He’s way, way out of my league » sorry but that is bullshit. Remind yourself that this dude isn’t perfect. He’s a fundamentally flawed human, just like the rest of us. If you put him on a pedestal you’re doing the both of you a disservice! And if you cancel.. well I guess you’ll never know whether you had a shot or not.
You cute, don’t stress