Dating : I’m emotionally unavailable, or at least I’m pretty closed up unless I want to pursue someone from the get go
And it’s driving me crazy. Because, people pursue me, but I shut them off comepletely without even trying to get to know them because I know it doesn’t make sense. I want to date people and get to know others better but I’m exhausted just by thinking about having to develop that attraction and conection.
It also makes me mad that even if I explain myself, these guys still believe they can make me change. I feel like I must then change my opinion, I have to be with them because I’m missing out on something great if I don’t. That the love of my life could be one of them but I will miss it because I’m not ready, or enoughly attracted or closed up.
If you want to learn how to swim eventually you have to get in the water.
Having said that you shouldn’t force yourself to be attracted to anyone. Odds are in a world with over 7 billion people there are plenty of folks you would consider attractive.
It also doesn’t cost you anything to be personable, be genuinely interested in learning more about others, or simply enjoy having a good time. Too many people are afraid of making mistakes.
When it comes to love and relationships most of us *fail our way* to success.
Very few people hit a homerun their 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th time up at bat.
If this were not the case we would all be married to our high school sweethearts!
With each failed relationship, heartache, or betrayal we are presented with an opportunity to either craft or refine our mate selection screening process and *must haves list* for choosing our next mate.
*** »Some people come in our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons. »*** – Mother Teresa
*** »Dating is primarily a numbers game…. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is. »*** – Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
the best relationship i ever had with a woman was one i initially thought about the men you are describing here. lasted 4 years which was pretty long considering how young we were; we were mirrors of eachother though…