Dating : I’m scared to start talking to people on dating apps
I’m 24, and I’ve never been on a date before.
I would consider myself a fairly attractive individual. However, before junior year of college, I had extremely low confidence and I was too scared to put myself out there. I also didn’t take care of myself and didn’t look good as I do now. I used to get bullied from k-12 for being ugly
Starting junior year of college, I started having drunk hookups, but never dating. Senior year, I gained a lot weight due to personal problems and lost confidence. I started grad school right after I finished undergrad, lost all the weight, and became more confident.
In grad school, I started talking to someone I knew from undergrad who I had a crush on, but then the pandemic happened and we became friends instead. I then finished grad school in late 2020.
Now that the pandemic is somewhat calming down, I’m deciding to put myself out there on dating apps. I matched with someone I found really attractive, but I can’t help but be terrified. Every time I text him, I get scared and mute the entire tinder app before I work up the courage to text him again 💀
If I’m this terrified on Tinder, I can only imagine what I’d be like on a date. How do y’all work through these anxieties? What do you even talk about on Tinder? How do you flirt? I prefer organicly meeting people, but that is really hard to do now that I’m finished with college and most of my friends are in different cities now