Dating : In a LDR of a 8 months, how can I help my boyfriend overcome his issues to help our relationship’s health??

Dating : In a LDR of a 8 months, how can I help my boyfriend overcome his issues to help our relationship’s health??

Hello!

I am F(19) have a LDR of 8 months, going on 9 with a sweetie (M;18). We saw each other, we have that physical chemistry, i just fell in love with his personality.

I was going to move in his city in a month, but something came along and I had to postpone it for a year. I just have to say, it became kinda rough, the situation between us. Maybe it’s because we’re both scared of the distance, that it’s going to damage our relationship. He has some problems in his family that stress him out, so i’m just trying to play it cool. I’ve managed to discuss with him honestly, a raw talk, ending up with him reassuring me that everything is fine, he’s just overwhelmed with his family situation and I understood.

The problem is: is it normal to feel that way? Maybe it’s because we passed the honeymoon phase and our relationship becames more serious. I’m still head over heels for hin, maybe i am just a little blind? This situation is happening since the begining of July and I feel it’s stressing me out and I can’t talk again with him because i just feel i’ll stress him out more.

Also, how can i approuch his family situation? He kinda shut in, had some serious fights with his mother and moved to his dad (divorced parents), I know it’s having a big impact on him. How can I show him he’s not alone in this? I feel like this influences our love life, but most important, it hurts him a lot.

Tl;dr: A LDR of 8 months (+1 year apparently), had some argues in the last month, we became kinda colder. He has some family issues, i’m trying to help him overcome them for his mental health first, and for our relationship’s secondly. But how can I do this? He just shuts in. I want to show him that he’s not alone in this.

Thanks a lot for reading!! 🙂