Dating : Is a little bit of rain a good excuse to cancel a date?
I 24M was supposed to meet with a girl 28F and one hour before our date it slightly rained and she wrote something like « Hey, it’s raining. Do you want to change to another day maybe? » to which I replied that I would prefer to meet her that evening if it was ok with her. And she never replied to my message. I guess something better came up and she picked that over me and it wasn’t even raining in the end.
Were you guys going to play baseball?
Seriously though, she probably wasn’t expecting you to decline her request to cancel. I know that’s not literally what happened, but that’s probably how she took it. I think you would have been better off saying something like, « I don’t mind a little rain, but it’s no problem if you’d rather reschedule. »
And the lack of response suggests she probably didn’t intend to reschedule anyway, but you never know. It’s all about timing and things change day to day. As you alluded, she may have scheduled a date with someone else, but who knows how she’ll feel next week, so she may still want to reschedule.
Shes not interested… your response was good, but never pose it as a question.
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« that day still works, if your not interested just let me know »… (they will never tell you there not interested, however the silence will scream the answer for you.
I mean, if she didn’t reply to your message, things were not that great.
Sounds like she wasn’t all that interested in the first place and found a hokey excuse.
If being outside were central to night then could plausibly be a reason.
However, this sounds more like she had a better offer and at least wanted to offer up a reason instead of just no showing.
Is it a dinner date? Women tend to dress all pretty maybe she’s just not down to mess her outfit and hair. I personally hate going out when the weather acts up because I don’t know if i should bring an umbrella and be stuck with it, bring a leather jacket and end up sweating in it etc, also if it rains you can’t take a nice walk afterwards with your date…you get the drill. Now about the text…
When she asked you if you want to change to another day, that wasn’t a question. Even though it looks like one. She wasn’t feeling it, that’s it. It’s always best to catch your date in a good mood, don’t force it. You should have just ask when or give another day suggestion instead. It’s better to look like you have other options anyways, don’t get in your feelings, act like she’s a ‘trophy’ older date or wait up on her like a desperate dude. Now wait for her answer and hopefully you didn’t f*cked up too bad, she will most likely come up with another excuse on top of that, so expect that. Don’t force her to justify in details everything she texts. Good luck bud.
It all depends on what you were planning to do. If you were going to be star gazing outside, and there was nothing else you would do, then maybe. Otherwise, I would think that a little bit of rain might affect what you do but would not cause the date to be called off.
For future reference, don’t ever try to reschedule for the same day. It looks extremely bad, even though it is unlikely that you meant anything cruel by it. It comes across as not taking the women’s feelings into account.
In this situation it is always better to make « plans » for a later date if offered, but since she didn’t offer a day/time herself, just presume she wasn’t interested and don’t expect to be meeting with her. Make it a pleasant surprise if the date occurs.
I’ve made this mistake before, suggested an alternative myself, and was ghosted for my efforts. It happens, it sucks, but don’t put any stock into her interest if no alternative is offered by her. She may be interested, she’s likely not. It happens.
And to the main question. As much as I love the rain, not everyone else does, so yes it is a justifiable reason to cancel a date.
If it’s not completely storming outside and you have something planned indoors you should be fine with keeping it. I had a girl give me a lame excuse like that saying it was storming even though every other part of the city including the area we were going to be at was pretty clear with no rain at all.
It’s not… a great reason, but it is one, I suppose.
Regardless, she didn’t want to do the date that day, so I think declining was a bad move and chances are, she’s much less inclined to reschedule with you at this point. No major loss, either way.
yah raining is a lame excuse, move on bro
Keep trying man. Don’t waste your time on ifs ands or buts.
Not really, if she wanted to meet she would. Rains no excuse, she just changed her mind on the date.
Happens all the time, don’t sweat it, move on to the next one.
Personally, bad weather tends to decrease my willingness to go out. I find rain draining, and a nuisance when I want to dress nice. And unless it’s absolutely imperative that I go, I would rather reschedule.
Even my friends and I have also changed plans due to rain.
If it were me, I would be extremely turned off by your response.
I cancelled a date tonight coz of rain and cold lol.. I gave him 4hr notice tho.
thinking of the commute home late at night in the cold ughh
He lived in the cbd area so it was easier for him to just pop out, where as I had to commute to and from.
To be honest, I do have little interest in meeting with the guy as well, but the weather is 70% reason I cancelled lol.. I do plan on rescheduling.