Dating : Is Dating Always Going to be this Depressing? (20M)
/rant I’m a 20 year old new(ish) grad working in the Bay Area and DATING HERE SUCKS. I’ve tried using online dating apps and found them to not lead to anything. I try to find places to go out and meet other people but it’s impossible as we’re all either working crazy hours or having orthogonal interests. It also doesn’t help that every single girl my age seems to be in high school or a freshman in college, which just feels weird. I keep reading about people talking about how if you have your s*** together it tends to be much easier to enter the dating scene, but it doesn’t seem that way. /endrant
I don’t want to make this a circlejerk sobfest as I know I can be doing better at marketing myself, so what is some advice you’d give (other than get hobbies/concentrate on career only – I have these two down)?
Tl;dr – How do I not become one of those annoying CS/Tech Bro has-no-social-skills stereotypes?
note:
I do have hobbies, that are interesting to me – arts, jazz, hiking, climbing, urban exploration, .
In addition, I feel I am pretty well settled career trajectory wise as I have worked as an engineer full time (not an internship) while in school, and my current role is a more experienced role.
Honestly at 29M, it feels like the last 10 years have only gotten worse, but maybe it’s just the times we’re living in? Dating is really bad, especially online, and especially for men.
Dating sucks these days, especially for men. Women are so picky since they always have a line of guys to choose from because of dating apps. Then, they hardly want to commit to anything. It’s unfortunately the society we live in today.
Yes. Life is depressing. Get used to it.
Do you have decent profile pics? Are you in shape? At 20 most people your age are going to be shallow as hell. Get a friend or ask on your local sub if anyone sn help take pics of you outside in good lighting.
Join a climbing/ hiking club?
Learn to dance. It’ll be weird at first but I guarantee you’ll have loads of girls there. It’ll get you use to socialising with women.
Dating only gets harder if you don’t work on yourself. Be positive and don’t be a down. No one wants to be around a Debbie downer or a guy too intense.