Dating : Is he ghosting me or should I reach out one more time?
Hey all,
Would love some outside perspective on this because I’m a bit confused. Story time!
I went out on a first date with a guy from a dating app. We went to a concert and things seemed to be going well. After the show, he walked me to my car where we started having a nice convo. Instead of standing by my car, I asked if he wanted to go grab a bite instead. He said yes and we went off to the second part of our date at a new location. At the cafe, it started to get late (he had to be up early), so I asked if he wanted to head out/needed to go. He said not yet and so we chatted for a little while longer.
He once again walked me to my car and as we said our goodbye’s, he said to let him know when I got home safe. I text him saying I got home along with « I had a really nice time tonight 🙂 », in which he replied « Same! » and let me know he got home safe, too.
I text him the next day about something we were chatting about and I haven’t heard back. Here’s my confusion; I gave him 2 solid outs if he wasn’t interested. He said yes to going to a second part of the date and he wanted to stay and hang out more when I asked if he needed to leave because it was getting late. I’d assume someone who wasn’t interested wouldn’t have done those 2 things? Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and ask if he got the text I sent, or am I being ghosted?
Well obviously don’t text again. Ball is in his court now. How long ago are we talking about and what exactly did you text him? He could be ghosting you but probably also trying to take some time to text back to seem aloof. Hard to really know, I’m not much help here.
Like someones already said, i’d give it a couple days, at least two from the last time you reached out. Then try again, but when you do maybe have a plan in mind for something to do together. Like a movie.
If still no response then wait a week and try one last time. At least thats what I do. I have a 3 tries rule, after that I give up. I know its really frustrating, confusing and sucky when someone verbally expresses interest but never follows up. Its happened to me far too much so I know that feeling of uncertainty.
I just shared a similar post in another forum! But we haven’t even made it to the date yet… That he initiated! It’s super frustrating and hard not to then go back and over analyze every single thing we said or did. It sounds like your date went well! I hope he gets back to you! Good luck! We need to put a stop to this ghosting bs lol
Don’t text him again he’s not that interested and is slowly ghosting you. This story sounds too familiar
Wait, give it a couple of days. He had to go to work, right? If you keep texting you’ll seem clingy. If you wait 24-48 hours, then if no contact, you can ask again….