Dating : Is it normal for dates to just not show up?
I (28m) have been on a handful of dates through covid when able, and I understand completely that it can be difficult on time and personal safety.
None of these dates have shown up, and have had no contact with them after the fact, or a message to say what happened.
If you don’t want to go, that’s fine but a message to let me know would have been nice.
If you don’t feel comfortable meeting me or going out during covid, again perfectly understandable but again just a quick message.
I’m not saying I’m owed anything if you arnt going to show up, it would just be nice to receive something.
Has anyone else experienced this? Before covid or otherwise?
Actually you are in fact owed a « sorry I’m not feeling it ». Having said that, I always confirm the day of the date. Only once did I not get a response so I just didn’t go.
Maybe they are catfish.
I get now why people want to meet quickly, even more hearing about experiences like this. Being considerate to concerns is good, as long as it’s safe for each person and there’s the same consideration given if/when the other party wants to return back to online dates afterwards for whatever reason. Instead of fearing the loss of a relationship, everyone should discuss expectations, needs, wants and plans sooner; no games, reduce confusion, prevent anxiety.
Being ghosted sucks
If they agreed to a definite date then you are indeed *owed* a message if they changed their mind.
Avoid OLD, although I heard countless stories about men being stood up on a date before OLD.
If no response that means no dates.
It’s normal, unfortunately, but that doesn’t make it okay. It’s incredibly rude.
All you can do is confirm the day of and 1-2 hours before the meeting time. Meet somewhere very casual that you can leave at a moment’s notice if they don’t show up
If they’re low quality women, yes
Yup women have so many options now thanks to the current digital age with dating apps that every guy is devalued.