Dating : Is it ok to go on a date with someone while trying to get backtogether with your ex?
Hi everyone. My ex and I broke up a month ago, for a variety of issues, personal and social, that I don’t want to go into. We had a conflicting viewpoint the other day. We both want to get back together, but in case anyone asked either of us on a date is where the issue stands. She told me if a girl would ask me to go on a date with them, I should say yes to save reputation and just be a gentleman. I completely disagreed with her, I said I’m not going to waste my time and other girl’s time either if my heart still belongs to her only. It’s not fair to the girl who asked me and not fair to me either, even to save face because it’s not genuine. I didn’t want her worrying about other girls who could possibly ask me out, so that’s another reason why I wouldn’t do so.
She told me a guy friend asked her out the other day and she said yes. She reassured me that they’re just friends and she sees this as more of a hangout and feelings won’t change overnight. I got really upset by this of course, and tried telling her my opinion, while she argued that she wanted to go on dates, but not get into a relationship because she wanted to get back together with me. I’m not well versed in dating, but is what she doing even right? Is it even saving face when it looks like you can be stringing people along since you’re only looking to hang out with them not get into a relationship because you already want to be someone else? Idk I’m just so confused by her mentality.
simple answer no. imagine how the person being dated feels
Seems like she wants to date and have you as a fall back option if it doesnt work. Her heart isn’t in it and she likely only wants to get back with you because she doesnt have other options.
Move on. Seriously. If you were both serious about getting back together then you would be back together. Its as simple as that. Dating around isn’t someone who wants their ex back. It’s someone who’s looking to make sure they dont have other options before coming back
No, it gets too messy. Finish your food before grabbing another plate, ya know?
No it’s not fair to the person you are dating if you are only playing a waiting game till you get back together with your ex. It sounds like she wants to or is dating someone but still wants you in her life. By her telling you to date someone means that she is evening the playing field so that it’s ok for her to do that. That just sounds like mind games all over. I’d get to the bottom of why she wants this and if it’s actually worthwhile getting back together.
Yes, you have to.