Dating : Is it ok to stay friends with girl I was dating? How to tell the girl I’m now exclusive with someone else…
I was dating two girls and last night went exclusive with one. Is it ok to stay friends with the other girl?
I haven’t told the other girl that I’m now exclusive with another girl. Any suggestions how to say this?
How do you know she’s going to be ok with being friends? If I were her I would not want to be friends.
Just tell her the truth and stop communicating with her. I don’t see it going well with either girl if you want to juggle.
As far as the other girl is concerned, you two are still dating. Tell her that you enjoyed your time together but you don’t want to lead her on as you’ve become exclusive with someone else. You could add something onto the message to give her an opening to remain friends if she wants to (e.g « let me know how X goes for you! »)
You are at the exact crossroads where so many people have chosen the wrong path that’s led modern dating to become the toxic endurance marathon that it’s become today. Don’t add to it.
Read an advice, might have been Youtube comment section. Alas, it goes as – « you don’t stay friends with those who saw you naked (had sex with). »
Now, the quote is vague, but the idea is you need some time apart if you want to stay friends. Emotions are still fresh, unconsciously either, for you too.
I actually avoid this. I only see one person at a time for this exact reason. I don’t want to break another persons heart. Especially if they know they lost out to someone else. No matter what you say they will know. So I’m already exclusive on my side from the start. Dating should never be a competition as people are not just a number and they do have feelings.
The one you don’t want to keep seeing will get hurt and most likely not want to be a friend. That is the casualty of dating/seeing multiple people. You have to bite the bullet and just go separate ways.