Dating : Is it okay to cry to your partner if you feel unloved?
This is after already expressing feeling unloved and not really being shown much more reassurance. Or is this manipulative? What else can you do when you’re so overwhelmed by emotion and just want them to step up? Do I just not get to express myself or speak up?
Yes you planning this out ahead of time such as to ask about it on reddit, rather than it just happening, plus the fact you are implying that you could choose not to, makes it seem pretty damn manipulative to me…
If it just happened legitimately naturally, then of course it wouldn’t be manipulative (but then you also wouldn’t be able to apply advice about it from reddit)
Anyway, just talk to him about it more plainly and honestly, if you think it would help. But if it never gets better, you probably need to break up and move on. Not being loved is a rather important dealbreaker.
If you’re a guy, that’s the worst mistake you could ever make. You never show weakness to women. Ever. I don’t know why but, as soon as you do, that’ll become ammo for a later argument.
If you’re a woman, the option to cry isn’t, in itself, wrong. If you’re crying to get an outcome, then don’t. Better to cry alone and then talk once your emotions have come back under your control.
If you’re crying during a conversation and it just happens, then that’s good. A relationship is about communication. If your partner can’t respect what their actions do to you, then it’s time for you to rethink some things.
It won’t make them love you more. I’m so sorry.
I had an ex like this. No matter what I did I couldn’t make her feel loved. She gave me hints but I couldn’t figure it out. It really sucked. I wouldn’t plan on crying lol, but if you talk about your feelings and you start crying, that’s not a problem.
Sorry to hear about your situation OP. This is not a healthy relationship. If your partner isn’t making you feel loved, unless they are extremely busy or pre-occupied, it just means they have become complacent in the relationship and are taking you for granted. I don’t know the fix, but I think it begins with valuing yourself more. You deserve to be loved.