Dating : Is it true for no apparent reason that a girl that wants to be friends can randomly like you? It’s the hardest dating question I need answered please.
Ok I need my hardest dating question answered.
Is it true in very rare situations that a guy’s crush mysteriously likes him if he just plainly be her friends?
Let me explain. This is a situation where a guy usually just decides to be friends with his crush (for many different things), and just displays human traits like every does. Obviously not all girl’s will like you and it’s understandable because some just want friends, nothing else. But even then, the rare case where just being her friend, and displaying normal human traits, boom she likes you back.
The reason this confuses me because it breaks the golden dating never fall for someone that’s just friends with you. Quite honestly if this rule is broken, every dating rule I know is useless. I thought we are supposed respect girls that just want to be friend’s, not for a 1 in a billion chance she likes you back for just being a friend & displaying human traits.
This just doesn’t make any logical sense, and hopefully the adults or more experience dating people can answer.
Edit:Sorry if I sound confusing.
Here’s the thing about rules – there will always be an exception. So to answer your question – yeah, that could happen. People change their minds on topics all the time, including who they are interested in. Maybe one day you do something that just clicks in her brain of, hey I like this dude.
Also I think you might want to rephrase your golden rule – don’t pursue someone who says they want to be friends. Bc no one wants to have someone be friends in the off chance that one day, maybe, possibly, they might start liking them. This creeps into « nice guy » territory.
I’m a 22F and I have a lot of guy friends who have had feelings for me in the past, but whom I’ve not felt the same way about. I’ve yet to ever see any of them as more than friends. So, I would say it is very unlikely, but not impossible. Generally, I have three « requirements » to be into a guy: attractive, things in common with me, and treats me right. So if a guy only has 2/3 of those qualities (my guy friends) it’s a no-go. But everyone is different. I just wouldn’t get my hopes up.
Nah. I don’t do « friends » with girls I see romantically. If I like her a lot and want to be more than friends, it’s senseless suffering to try and stick around. I’ve done it, had sex with them even, but it was always a negative force in my life. If you want to be friends and nothing else, be friends. If you like the person and want a relationship (and they don’t), it’s best to stop talking to them all together. You’ll feel used and neglected if you expect more, and that’s not always on them (though there are canipulative munts out there that will lead you by the nose for their benefit).
I’m friends with girls that I’m not attracted to in that way or don’t care because they have a boyfriend. I only sleep with women I’m dating or women I don’t want to date (like cute but not my type). I only do this if they’re detached too, cause I don’t like to string people along/use them without their knowledge (mutual usury is fine as long as we’re both upfront).
Some people will only chase you when you aren’t chasing them. Don’t get invested in these people; they’re only in it for the hunt/to prove they *could* have you if they wanted to.