Dating : Is she interested in me or just pushing me off?
I met this girl online and have been talking to her the last couple days. She matched with me on Tinder and even sent the first message. However when I replied and tried to keep the conversation going she always responded but it was very brief and seemed dis interested… I was getting real genuine answers but it just seemed like I was holding up the conversation. I then told her to add me on Snapchat where we send snapchat pictures somewhat regularly(5ish times a day) and even sometimes, she sends me pics or videos of her in the shower (That I’m assuming she wouldn’t send everyone else). I asked her to go out with me and she said yes but was busy at work but “will figure it out”. She never offered a day when she was free. I waited a day and then I asked her for a specific day and time and she said she has to work.
She always seems to send me the first message but is non committal when making plans and I don’t understand. After asking her out more specifically and her saying that she had work, I stopped responding to her. Since I stopped responding she still has sent me a handful of Snapchat pictures that I have left as read. I’m just really confused on whether or not she is interested and actually busy or just trying to dodge saying no.
She seems like a genuinely nice person that I would like to take out.
What should I do?
Move on, she just wants attention
lol – I matched with a girl and added her on snap. Her first pic to me was a very risque photo of her in a towel, phone high above her head, exposing her naked butt (only the front half was covered). Her story later that day said ‘sending these boys nudes eating mac n cheese’.
Many many many girls use Tinder/OLD/Snap for attention. You can usually tell this right away by the number of stories they post. A lot of times girls send me the same thing they post on their stories, though sometimes before, and likely often to multiple people. I’m not really with it – I’m trying to date, not placate.
Some of the worst people I’ve known ‘seem like really nice people’, so never take someone on face value. Actions = louder than words. Words are empty and hollow, actions can’t lie. *Move on!*
Most women just use apps like Tinder for validation and to feed their egos, with zero intention of meeting anyone.
But you made one mistake: never try to keep the conversation going. Think of talking to girls online and texting them like the stock market, you want to “buy low” and “sell high.” What do I mean? When a girl sends you a message, she’s usually bored and at a low, and you need to raise that “stock” then “sell” it off for profit. Contrary to popular belief you should leave or end the conversation when it’s at its peak, because she’ll associate that with you and it’ll leave her wanting more. If you painstakingly try to keep the conversation going, it’s at a low and she’ll associate that with you too and will be less likely to talk to you again.