Dating : It’s always: “you deserve someone who wants to be with you” & never: “I want to be the guy you deserve”.
I’m (25f) honestly tired and broken. Every guy I’ve come in contact with in my life and especially recently, they always leave and always say I deserve someone who actually is ready for me. No one wants me for more than just sex.
I’m balling my eyes out writing this because I’m tired of men not seeing the value in me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and dating/apps have really started to effect my mental health. It’s like every guy I meet on these apps only want casual. And even though I’m having fun too (I’m horny and sometimes I take the offer of a hookup) I feel like I’m the only one who wants something real.
Im tired of this idea that people seem to have that casual is better than building something with someone. I just want to meet a guy who isn’t lying to me when he says: “I’m a good guy and I deserve a chance”. Because I fell for that & the second I wanted to give us a go so badly, he switched and wanted to be casual. & I really liked him.
Im tired. I just want to meet a guy who’s ready and wants me. Im a good person, I just want to build something special and cuddle while we watch movies and talk about each other’s lives.
I obviously dont know your situation but if you really exclusively run into guys that just want sex then it might also be down to your choice of partners. Its important to be realistic.. usually if a guy leaves after sex its sort of the equivalent of being rejected. A lot of guys a very open to sleep around even with women they dont find super attractive but they wont continue to date them.
So In your position I would wait a bit with sex and focus more on the other qualities in the guys you meet. Most men wont wait ages for sex if they arent actually interested in you. Its the simplest strategy to weed out the casual guys. Look out for shared interests, try to find someone whos personality you like. Maybe first consider what you actually want in a partner and then select your matches based on that.
If you’re giving people what they want (casual sex), don’t be surprised if that’s the only thing they will go for.
Just know it sucks for everyone quite often and can and will get better. We have an expectation in our societies nowadays of meeting someone young like our grandparents and great grandparents had to, we don’t have to. Meeting people later can still work great for us.
One piece of advice though, this may just be a personal dislike but I would suggest a hard pass on anyone who describes themself as a « nice guy ». To me it’s always felt like if you are one you wouldn’t be saying it.
Check out r/niceguys (I think that’s it), if you are talking to someone that says things like you see in there run a mile!
Sorry for the unsolicited advice, I know it sucks, it wont always suck. But also tends to come along when you least expect it!
Ur young this is perfect age.
The secret is really don’t look for relationship
Have fun which is good ur doing it.
But literally have fun without thinking of locking down a guy. ur so awesome and have great life.
And have fun date more men, this is the secret to make #10 man want relationship with you.
Easy, at least from my standing. I don’t know you, but if you grant a chance for me to get to know you a bit first, then there’s a good chance you will hear the latter.