Dating : (M) I give up on dating (20)
last year ago I try to confess to my crush and so I ask her to give us min alone… I never did this before, so I telling her how much she means to me and that I have feelings for her…I don’t get much of repose out of her besides her saying « am cute »
and ring that bell and I have to come back to class, meanwhile my heart was racing like hell
next day I asking her if she would like to go to cinema with me on weekend? she: well am traveling
me: ok, so what about next day?
She: I have training
me: ok, so what about right after school?
She: I have… something
Me: oh, I see
after school bit of crying in pillow, being sad for 2 weeks
after all one defeat will put me on my knees. maybe I come off bit strong.
I tried different girl
so you are cool and I would like to know you better. so we exchange phone numbers.
So I call her. so what about next weekend? She: ok
I was so happy. I put on my self nice iron clothes, shower, bit of gel on hair
on way there I buy chocolate heart. So I waited 1 hour, 2, 3, (try to call her she didn’t pick up) next day I ask what the hell?
She: well i will call you next time
so i waited month,2,3…and nothing
more less same happened with 3 more girls
(At this point I start asking myself I pay for movie and diner. am I really that unattractive to not even give me chance)
maybe should ask girls not from my school. said to myself. long stories short workout terribly (not even number)
( So I stop groom myself, what’s the point anyway) and the last nail in the coffin was am jokingly complaining how things didn’t work out and he jokingly ask your female friends next to us if you would like to date me that was fastest NO in my life( funny because one of them is overweight as hell)
and that’s how i lost my last bits of confidence.
You’re coming off really strong and you’re putting way too weight in what these women think of you. If I were you I’d ask myself “why does this matter so much?” Because you should totally want the affection, connection and attention from a woman but you shouldn’t NEED it. By the looks of this post you look like that latter.
Take 1 year break from girls and work on yourself! Hard gym trainings, roman-greco wrestling, MMA or BJJ. It’s up to you, just get tougher, so you will love yourself more and have tremendous confidence. And don’t forget to train the brain – pick up some philosophy and think about how the world works. What motivates people. How people act. It will make you accept rejection much better. Questions?
you’re definitely coming off too strong.
try to be a better self for yourself (your own development and your own sake and future) and not just to look good for girls. do not rely entirely on others’ judgement. try to relax.
I would say, instead of approaching girls directly like you did (if you decide you wanna give it a try) maybe you can join some activity (like sports, an interest group) where you can meet other people and be around girls but without your hitting on them or asking them out. none of the « let’s go for a date, I want to get to know you » stuff. see what happens. and most importantly try to be an interesting person, that people (girls) would be excited to hang out with.
good luck.
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