Dating : Maybe I’m shallow, but I want to change.
So I’m(23F) dating one of my friends(24M), and as much as I like him, I’m not physically attracted to him. I don’t even like conventionally attractive ppl to begin with but I feel like he’s not someone I would typically go for. In fact, I really think my man is low-key really ugly. Like ik I’m no prize, but I’m having trouble getting past his appearance. He looks like a chunky goblin. Like omfg he tries to be cute or alluring, but I just can’t help but feel uncomfortable. But Ik that if I were to have a soulmate, Ik it would be him. Everything is good. Our communication is on point, and we think similarly. Which is why I don’t wanna walk away from this, and I’m in too deep. My friends have the idea that I’m just going to hurt him (bc we’ve dated briefly in the past), which I fear they may be right about.
Has this happened to anyone? How did you get past it? Was it worth it??? Did y’all have kids??? I want to make this work.
EDIT: I GOT IT NOW.
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR TIME ‼️‼️‼️
He not soul mate if your not attracted to him though.
I would say break up with him before you start getting repulsed by him, and be honest in a nice way and then Take a few weeks or months break before going back into the wonderful world of finding someone to date, if I were you I would stay and find ways for him to improve because dating new people and getting ghosted is no bueno in our heart how it feels
When I was a teenager, I dated a couple guys I’d befriended who on paper, were great matches for me. They were sweet, funny, witty, smart, etc. But I really didn’t find them physically attractive.
I was attracted to them, sure.
But if they had asked me out prior to us becoming friends, I don’t think I would’ve said yes to any of them, based purely on looks alone.
However, for me eventually, the physical component became important too.
You can’t force physical attraction, and it can lead to the individual getting hurt if you’re not honest and upfront about your feelings.
GUYS:
notice how she is falling for someone who is « low key ugly »? When it comes to women, Its not all about how you look. So stop feeling sorry for yourselves.
Physical attractiveness is a big part of a relationship. Even though women are less affected by physical attractiveness than men it is still a key feature. Remember you (and he) ain’t getting any younger and with age of course looks fade. You need to be sure you will be attracted to him for a long time coming at least. My advice is to end it and explain why in a respectful manner. Maybe it will motivate him to work.on his appearance and physique, but make it clear he has to do it for himself and not for you.
How can someone be lowkey ugly haha, doing mans dirty roasting him on the internet. Maybe you can give him a makeover.
Sorry for the erratic nature of my rant but uhm it’s 4 AM here