Dating : Men, do you find girls who don’t talk about themselves boring?
When I meet a guy and strike up conversation, I mostly ask questions about him, talk more about what he does/likes, and don’t talk much about myself. I only share those details when asked or when we’ve had more than one conversation. Is that boring?
A conversation isn’t an interview. It’s not always about asking and answering questions. Questions facilitate a conversation, but most of it should be just talking.
You: so what’s your favourite sport?
Him: I like to ski. Blah blah blah
You: I like to ski too! I’ve been to this resort with my friends and I really enjoyed the local culture. They serve bison so I thought that was quite a unique experience
Alternatively: I’m not really into winter sports as I get cold too easily, but I love summers though! I usually go hiking with friends. We’ve even done a two week trek in X country!
See, it’s not that hard to just throw information about yourself out there even when you’re not asked for it. That’s how I like my conversations and why I don’t ask many questions.
A conversation it not just ask and respond. Both need to develop the subject that are talking..
I wouldn’t find it boring but if I try to understand you and your answer is I don’t know and you don’t want to have a meaningful conversation than yes I would be bored
Women who don’t hold a conversation are boring.
if any man’s idea of a date that went well is he talked about himself and you listened, that’s not a date. he was looking for an audience. talk about yourself. a man who thinks that’s boring thinks that you’re boring. is that the kind of date you want?
I like when men ask about me, so I don’t offer details about myself unless I’m asked. It shows interest. If I’m doing all of the asking then they obviously aren’t interested. On another note, I can share details about myself and if they don’t ask any follow up questions or even try to relate to my sharing, they obviously aren’t interested. I am not an open book, I’m actually quite reserved. If anyone finds that boring then oh well, not my loss.
I HATE being interviewed. When I was younger I used to tolerate it, but now I just hate it and don’t tolerate it.
What I WANT to do is share experiences with someone and discuss what we are doing while we are doing it.
I like a good mix of talking about myself and hearing about them, any time the conversation is too one sided it gets boring. Sometimes it does help to provide interesting details without being asked.
Yes, I want a dialog, not monolog.
Why do YOU not find that boring? And why are you encouraging men to talk about themselves so much – they don’t need encouragement, they do enough of that already!
Yes, very boring. It’s a conversation not an interview.
That’s the approach I take on first dates. Talking about yourself has shown to be pompous in the eyes of some women. Me personally as long as you’re not coming off as some kind of walking flex I’m fine with you talking about yourself. Means I can relax and just listen LOL
I like it when a woman shares about themselves. I went on a date a few months ago and felt like I was interrogating her. She wouldn’t volunteer any information, wouldn’t ask questions. I had to carry everything. It’s much more fun when the conversation flows naturally with each person sharing and asking questions.
It’s very unusual. Idk if I ever ran into that I’d probably try extra hard to get you to talk about yourself lol.
Rule #1 to conversations, don’t spend more than 10% of the time talking about yourself unprompted. Rule #2 see Rule #1
I have been told that, in general, as a man, women conversations where *I* am interested in *her* so I make a point to ask my date lots of questions.
From personal experience, I find that either the conversation « flows » (i.e. we have mutual interests) or it doesn’t, and if it doesn’t then there isn’t much you can do to fix it. Just move on and find yours.
Idk, is he asking you questions in return? Because he should be. If you ask all the questions and he just answers, then *he’s* boring.
No, it’s far from boring when someone doesn’t go on and on about them self.
What’s boring is when someone doesn’t really have an opinion about any topic.
Ideally both people are interested enough in each other that they ask questions.
If someone doesn’t *ask you* any questions they’re probably not very interested in you.
Best wishes!
Yeah that’s boring , it feel like we are talking alone.
>Is that boring?
As a fairly reserved individual, I don’t find that boring. That’s a good way to keep a conversation, with me especially as I’m also a quiet person in general. Only speak if spoken too.
Personally if I want to know something back, I’d ask the question back.
Personally, I find there needs to be a balance. I’m not the most extroverted or outgoing person so a conversation solely about me is not something I would find interesting. I like a conversation that both people equally participate in, finding common grounds or differences, exchanging opinions, and something that goes deeper than just small talk (which I find boring)
A good balance is the best. But just showing interest and asking questions is s huge plus!
Not boring, but it just makes it look like you’re not invested in the conversation. When I ask a question and I don’t receive a « what about you? » in return I try to at least give a brief answer from my point of view. I think that a good and entertaining conversation involves both parties talking about themselves and listening to the other
No, i’m not talkative either. But personally I like to do fun things with my boyfriend like watching a movie, go out for dinner, play games.
It might depend on the you and the other person. If the other person doesn’t like to talk, but asks questions or shows interest that’s good. I think it is good to have equal exchange?
I’d appreciate more of a mix, say 50/50 between myself and my hypothetical girlfriend.
Unfortunately, I am also boring and often do not have much to say in conversations. It also doesn’t help that I am autistic.
Is there a reason you don’t talk about yourself? Any good date would want to hear about you as much you hear about them.
Like others have said, only asking questions makes it feel like an interview. It can be boring, but it can also put people on edge. Think of a job interview and the feeling that comes with trying to answer a question so you get the job.
No I actually think it’s great because it shows that you’re interested in the other person and not self- centered. It’ll also show you if the other is self-centered by how much they balance out the personal questions.
No. Have you tried this in practice? Men love talking about themselves as much as women do. Do not let these guys tell you any different.
Yes. I mean they don’t have to talk about themselves nonstop, nor should anyone, but it gets painfully annoying when I ask things like what do you do for fun and they give out short replies like hang out, watch tv or say they hate the question. As redundant as the question might be, it’s like how else are you supposed to get to know someone when they don’t say anything?
Like I have many interests and I don’t need to be doing them all the time to still enjoy them.
If it feels like I’m pulling teeth or the conversation feels forced, like all the time, then I either figure they’re not that interested, very boring, or both.
I mean, having conversation skills is attractive but it’s understandable when some people take more time to open up, as long as there is more than just superficial engagement (entonation, responses, etc.). But again everyone is different so…
Just be yourself!
It should be a pretty even back and forth. I usually try to let the woman talk more and ask her questions. Basically what you said but in reverse. A convo should never be one sided, both people should be talking even if it’s a 70/30 split. Ideally, I prefer to let the woman talk 70% of the time and I only talk 30% (depending on the person this will change of course)
Hell no, I mean I would love to talk to a girl that ask me questions instead! I’m always the one the start and steers the conversation.