Dating : Men: How Often Do Women Approach You?
By approach, I mean:
-starting a conversation:
-touching you intentionally or « accidentally »
-walking into your personal space and making strong eye contact
-waving at you/greeting you
-entering your personal space for no other reason than to force intimacy
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How often means:
-how many times a week
-how many times a year
-how many times a night?
You define the unit of measurement.
Never happened to me
0 times, atleast i havent noticed
Maybe a few times per year to let me know I’m in the way at the grocery store or something similar.
I watch for subtle invitational keys, so in a sense I wait for her to tell me to come over and talk. I try to make it 50/50 on the initiation front since nobody likes to get hit on by someone they’re not interested in. I get the invitation once ever 4 months or so, that said I’ve been in a kinda bad spot mentally for dating since August so I may have missed more opportunities than I know of.
About once every two weeks on average. . In June so far, it was once in line at Whole Foods. And once at the gym while I was just hanging out in the lounge.in both cases they started a conversation. I only consider starting a conversation as an approach. The other ‘approach’s ‘ seem more like IOI’s , and I don’t keep track of those.
If you are talking about stranger that’s almost never. The only once I remembered was someone overhearing my conversation about college program and said she was in the same program as well, I wasn’t in the mood and I guess I didn’t show much interest so she took off once she got the chance.
Literally never. Closest that’s ever happened is a shy girl who we’d catch each other staring sometimes. But as far as I’m aware she had a boyfriend at the time so I wasnt even gonna bother.
am woman – will happily introduce self to anyone and everyone if i feel like it. nb i’m a real estate agent so they give you staff training to do it.
Four or five times. The best one was me walking into a pub and a girl stopped me right at the door, and she said « let’s hang out » I said that I would be back in a second but she wouldn’t let me out of her sight within five minutes we were in a taxi on the way to her house.
In the same pub this girl with amazing curvy body started dancing next to me and checking me, I moved just to confirm I thought was going on, she moved too and I knew she was after me.
For complete strangers about twice a year.
It happens frequently at work but any time I’ve tried to talk to any of the women outside of work they seem surprised and nothing goes anywhere.
Never. Haven’t been approached by a woman in years. Probably over a decade actually, since all the times I can think of, I was the one approaching them. Actually that’s not entirely true I guess… I did have a stalker for a while. That was unpleasant. But the point is, I very rarely have women touch me, initiate a conversation (outside of work or something), walking into my personal space, making strong eye contact. The closest I’ve had is probably someone smiling at me when I held the door open for them. That’s about it.
In my case at least once a week …
Plenty of women will come up to me and say hi or throw some form of compliment to me whenever I’m out at concerts/bars/festivals etc. Its at least a few times a month, depends on the amount I actually go out and if I’m with friends or by myself. When I went out Saturday other than girls I actively knew I know two talked to me first. That was at a club bar, I generally will see more people interact with me at concerts or festivals.
At no point will one come into my personal space to force some form of intimacy… I’ve barely had a girlfriend do that though my friend group is full of people who will give each other hugs though I dont consider that as intimate.
This has never happened to me
Almost never.
random women: never.
work: sometimes. mostly work related….
at this point any women who orbit my personal space is one I’ve broken the work barrier with… so we’re just good friends etc…. and we would talk and have good convo if we weren’t at work
this morning I jogged this trail: 2 women did but it’s because I gaveoff of obvious eye contact and friendly face lol
understand this:
if you waiting for women to approach you, especially one you like, you gonna be dead and single…. better cultivate it and put that effort in
Never
lol. There is no magic formula, just go places women are too and see what happens.
I’ve been approached at grocery stores, bars, restaurants, gas stations – basically anywhere they’re by themselves. They’ll either smile and maintain eye contact, start chatting me up, or give me that « I’d lick whipped cream off of any part of your body » look. My favorite is the cute but goofy awkward stare – this gets my engine running full speed lol
I don’t like when girls bump into me (I don’t like to be touched without permission). I’ve had girls do this and I’m immediately repulsed – it’s the equivalent of a guy grabbing some strangers ass (I’ve had my chest rubbed, arm caressed, even my dick touched). I’m just not with it – totally not cool.
I do kinda like the light touch on the shoulder, but it puts me at a disadvantage because it makes me extremely nervous. I would rather just not be touched unless it’s mutual and expected. Taps are okay, but again, don’t just walk up and touch me lol (anything sudden/hard could even get you hit/knocked down from pure reflex).
It happens at least once a month if I’m out doing things (I usually go out on weekends, but sometimes week nights). I think people are more receptive on weekends, but there is no exclusion principle. If a girl likes you and is bold/has some social IQ, she’ll let you know she’s interested. Really shy ones do themselves a disservice, so I usually don’t mess with them ’cause I think they’ll act insecure.
Never
I’m 25. Once in my life has a girl ever done that. I was 20, she was 38. Alas I had to say no the age gap is just too much for me. Women my age? Forget it, if they’re even reasonably attractive they’ll be smothered in men. You’ll be lucky if you get a response, let alone a message FROM them!
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most ladies are taught to never approach strangers from pretty much as soon as she can walk and talk – especially if she is raised properly. this can get hammered in for so long that she will never approach strangers if she can avoid it.
I’m a woman and I approach men all the time, especially while intoxicated. I hate that stigma that the man should always initiate, but I think it’s getting better.