Dating : Mid30s and don’t know how to approach.
For my entire life, I had two partners which was relatively short. (4 and 6 months). I’ve been always careful not to creep out people especially women. So eventually it grew into a much more state that I can’t even put up a conversation with a single person – unless it’s a working environment.
Every single female that I’ve known had disgusting horror story done by males. I guess due to my low self esteem I’m so scared to ruin my fragile ego so I can’t conversate with anyone. Even casually. If people try to do, I literally start to have heart palpations, start to slur and end up slither away from there with an excuse – sometimes without.
wtf should I do. I already feel like 3 quarters of my life spent alone, and I’ve been desperately in need of a relationship. At the same time I don’t had much to live. If I try to go to a therapist, that’ll probably start working years after and I’ll be 100 years old. But I can’t approach people because people already have traumas, I don’t want to trigger them. I hate to be the potential ‘another creep’ of their trauma collection. People are already hurt and I’m not to hurt once more. I’m too scared what’s left of my ego if I get rejected. Even on dating apps, when I get ghosted (which always happens lol) it ruins my day.
I’m asking here because I’m expecting hear normal advices rather than mtgow and ‘go the gym bro’ bullshit.
*and* *pls just down vote this if your advice is in the same context with ‘pick up yer ballz and talk with gurlz’*
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You gotta take that shot regardless. You’re gonna miss 100% of the ones you don’t take.
You’re already discarding many advices in your post before even trying them it seems, so I think you are mostly her to rant and don’t actually want advice.