Dating : My boyfriend (22M) and I (22F) are stuck
I think I just want help thinking this all through so I’m going to run through my thoughts and my thought process here.
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over half a year now but we have been friends for 5 years. I met him online through playing games with friends and we had an on and off long distance relationship for a couple years. It never really worked out previously because I couldn’t handle long distance with all the stressors in my life. Overtime I was able to developer better skills for coping and handling stress so we decided to give it another shot. I love him, he is the perfect boyfriend in every meaning of the word… he’s kind, considerate, loving, caring, funny, like truly, he is wonderful. He loves me unconditionally and unquestionably, when we talk about problems he does his best to accommodate and talk it through with me (I try to be the same for him but only he could say if I really am >.<). I see him once a month if I’m lucky but there are no guarantees and it’s getting more difficult to plan the visits here just because we’re both a little more busy. (It takes a plan ride or a 6hr + car ride to get to each other )
So now the “issue”, it really is just with me, but basically it feels like there is a piece missing from it all. The biggest obstacles for me with the distance are the lack of touch and the lack of romance. It’s so easy in distance relationships to just get stuck in a routine, doing the same thing every day, and that’s what it has felt like lately. It’s hard to find ways to be romantic from so far away but it feels like he doesn’t try. He won’t make an effort until I’ve brought it up multiple times as a formal issue and even then he will probably just continue to do nothing.
I suppose it just feels like he doesn’t listen and then I feel not heard and feel less inclined to share when I’m having a problem. It’s something I want to work through with him so if you’ve ever beeen in a distance relationship please let me know how you maintained it 🙂