Dating : My date just canceled last minute…
…which took me by surprise because I felt our first date went really well and she seemed really interested. That was a week ago, and tonight we were supposed to meet up again, but she canceled literally as I was heading out the door and said she didnt want to reschedule because she doesnt see it going anywhere. I usually have a good sense when someone is interested or not and I really felt we hit it off when we met a week ago. I get that these things happen, but this time I was so confident about where things were going so I’m really feeling pretty bad about it. This just happened an hour ago so chances are I wont give a shit when I wake up tomorrow, but as of right now I feel super insecure about it and I really wish I had an explanation.
This happened to me several weeks ago. First date went really well. We stayed until they literally kicked us out. I’m 90% sure between our dates she went out with someone else whom she liked better. She cancelled last minute and apologized a great deal.
Went a first date with a different girl the following week. I thought I BOMBED the date. She was cute but we didn’t connect as easily. Now I’ve been dating this girl for a few weeks and things are going well and I can tell she is really into me. You just never know where things are going.
Look at the bright side, you were still at home when she flaked on you so she just saved you gas money. You deserve better brother.
[Best way to deal with it.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZeUm7RHdY5E)
I did this to someone. It’s likely not you. I wasn’t yet over the last person I saw and jumped back into OLD too quickly, and realized it didn’t feel right.
It most likely has nothing at all to do with you. She probably had a nice time (thus the second date) but whatever is happening in her own life- ex came back, not ready, dating someone else too, – just conflicted tonight and you ended up canceled on. You can’t take it too personally, because “rejection” this early on is hardly rejection- it’s just about what’s going on in the life of the other person.
I’ve been canceled on 4 times in the past month with a girl I’ve been talking to… You get used to it
I had this happen once, although a few hours before and not as I was heading out the door and after like 2 months of datingtalking. Then a few hours later she posts a public snapchat of her in a car with another dude. Whatever. At that point things just shifted to a text / meme exchange friendship and probably 3 months pass when she starts going on about wanting to date again. Had a phone convo with her and talked about it, which she said she tried to block me from seeing that snapchat, and « I already had a date scheduled with you, but he asked me out and I really wanted to go out with him ». And there you have it. Needless to say we didn’t go back to dating, but it still talk to her ever few months or so – and it always comes up « I really miss the shit we did; I really wish we could get back to that »
Seems like you found a woman who had spectacular acting skills.
Strange tho, last minute cancellation usually mean it’s really not your fault. So honestly just sleep it off and frustrations will pass.
Dude, that sucks.
I know the feeling when everything felt right about the date before and then out of nowhere… it’s over. I know it all too well.
Can’t offer any advice but wanted to say that I hope you find something good and someone who deserves you brother.
Bummer. It’s sucks she set up a second date then backed out so that you wasted your time. I have good dates all the time followed by “I didn’t feel a spark” or other excuses. You just never know what reasons people have or things you reveal that they quietly object to. I meet with people all the time that tell me things I know aren’t compatible and I smile and say nothing but know it won’t work out.
Happened to me for the third date. the two previous times we met up it went really well, laughing and having a good time, made out both times. But her chat with the texting was dead so didnt really get a good feeling from that, but as the dates went really well just assumed she wasnt much of a texter. Anyway she canceled our third date as she doesnt feel it will go anywhere either. Felt pretty bummed about it at the time, I guess she was seeing someone else she got on better with.
>but this time I was so confident about where things were going so I’m really feeling pretty bad about it.
After dating for awhile, I’ve learned not to trust how things feel like they’re going until things get serious. I’d say that one date definitely isn’t enough to be confident about where things are going, but in my personal experience, neither are 4, 7, or 12+ dates. In the grand scheme of things, that still in the « getting to know you » phase. There’s still a solid chance that they’ll meeting someone they vibe with better, or realize once they get to know you better that you aren’t quite what they’re looking for. Also, you’re very much not clear of the honeymoon period – that’s a hurdle most people don’t consider when dating.
Even if you received an explanation it probably wouldn’t be the exact reason. It could easily be something that had nothing to do with you.
It is what it is man. People are crazy, it’s best not to think about it and move on. Trust me there is someone out there for you
No sec option? Mr confident guy
She just found someone better looking, more money or personality.
Wow notice all these posts about a date canceling last minute it’s ALWAYS a female canceling on a dude.
Anyways sorry dude that sucks
Move on. Find a new girl.
This time set boundaries and let them know you don’t like any mindgame.
If it makes you feel better, the woman I’ve been dating for the last year cancelled on our first date…
Sorry to hear. Maybe something personal
Came up? Still not a reason for her to do that to you.. I woudnr take it too personally, some people have their own conflicts to deal with. Good that she dipped now instead of pretending to be interested and leading you on etc
The girl is an asshole for cancelling at the last minute when she didn’t see it going anywhere. She should have cancelled earlier. Don’t give her the satisfaction of any response. Just delete her number and move on. You dodged a bullet.
It’s all random. Keep going for it. If you find yourself overly invested about a particular girl you need more abundance.
Just remember this feeling when she realizes the guy she is probably currently seeing is actually a douche.