Dating : My experience so far
Have been living in this world for 26 years.
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My personal experience so far with dating is quite average and lonesome. I’ve been single for ages (last gf was when I was 18) and I could vouch for having bad luck with dating. I met tons of girls but it’s a mixture of I blew my chances because I was rather passive to the girl is catfishing me.
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So far I haven’t met a girl who share the views as I do. Maybe it’s the culture difference? Maybe it’s because of me being awkward? Maybe it’s just a no from both sides. All of this are just a collective maybes that makes my situation flat.
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So far I need to be more « aggressive » towards girls as all my friends point out. It’s either be first or be last. So I should go for it and not sit there idling.
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Being a passive guy does suck a lot. But my problem is that I just don’t have the drive to chase girls anymore because I find that it’s boring and ends up with me being rejected. « You just need to find the right person » is a generic advice that is being told 10000000 times to me. But I’m stuck between should I just find the right person or just be more aggressive towards girls that I’m attracted to? Maybe both?
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It’s not like I’m thirsty for sex but rather thirsty for that connection that I dearly missed. But that special connection is harder to find. I felt that I would never find that connection since girls have different personalities (Social media persona vs real life) where I just can’t find an awesome girl in real life. It’s like girls are more « alive » on social media than real life.
