Dating : My therapist was being super friendly and now I like her a lot.
Never having been in a relationship as a 21 year old I am literally desperate for someone to ask me out, which is probably why I get crushes on anyone who’s nice to me. Which is also why I am now crushing on my physiotherapist.
Yesterday I had my second appointment with my physiotherapist.
The first appointment was great. She had me do some exercises and I kind of liked how she had to touch me to help me but obviously, I know that’s her job. She’s just doing her job. No extra meaning. But I still liked it.
We had fun talks during the exercises. I don’t remember all of them but it felt really easy to talk to her and she was messing around bringing up ideas how my parents should get us a pool because swimming is great, and she came up with ideas what the pool should look like and I went along with it. We laughed quite a lot. I laughed more than I usually do with my best friend (but all she talks about is all her family and friends).
I couldn’t wait for the next appointment.
I mean I knew nothing would happen. She was just being nice and just doing her job.
But her voice omg. And her eyes, oh my God they were so sweet. And she was so sweet (and gave me a really gay vibe for some reason, which is great but it’s probably just my feelings talking)
Yesterday was my second appointment.
It went the same.
She had me do exercises and helped me with them.
But we talked more than the last time.
She talked about vacations, Florida, how she went to see Nasa and some other things, how you have to book way in advance for Halloween at Disneyland, about holding alligators and swimming with dolphins, about her other vacation in Greece, turtles at the beach, the heat, her long drive to work… Lot’s of things. And at the end, she proudly showed me a few pictures she took on holiday to show me how amazing Greece is (holy shit it was gorgeous) (sidenote I didn’t see any partner in the pictures hahaha not that that matters because obviously nothing will ever happen).
And then at the end she said ‘Well I guess this is our last appointment for now. If you ever need me, just call, but for now, goodbye’ and she seemed kinda sad and awkward.
She was probably just being friendly.
BUT GOOOOOD DO I WISH SHE WAS ALLOWED TO ASK ME OUT BECAUSE I SURE DON’T HAVE THE GUTS TO DO THAT.
kinda her job lol.
I believe that there is (and this depends on her license) a six month period between you being a client to you being a date.
Because otherwise she could lose her whole career.
But hey, nothing wrong with (maybe a note mailed?) Now, and a follow up in six months.
Yeah i know i’ve been through the same, when someone is being really nice to you and you were starving for attention its really good, you dream of spending so much more time with that person…unfortunately it will probably end when the stuff that has to be done is done, in your case the physiotherapy, in my case it was a therapy service in the college i was in,then when i finished college, things slowly ceased… its sad good relationships started and ended or got into a undetermined standby because the purpose they initiated ended…like a service or a transaction…because at the basis there is capitalism and the need of people getting money…makes me feel… lonely. I feel all connections eventually end….i feel alone.
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There’s this phenomena in therapy known as transference, which is what you are describing. It’s the main reason there are so many ethical rules about therapists dating clients. I suggest doing some research so you recognize it, but the short story is that those feelings aren’t « real ». I know they feel real and it’s normal to get them, but you should not act on them.
I mean, if you find a different physiotherapist you could call her and see if she’s interested in getting coffee.
Did you awkwardly stare at her boobs the entire session?
I’d tell you to go to a therapist but you’d probably f@#k her in the foyer.