Dating : Need advice on a Tinder match
So I matched with this girl on Tinder a couple weeks ago (m30 & f27) and while she was a little spotty getting back to me I didn’t think much about it since I was effectively a stranger on the internet still. I asked her for her number and it took a couple days for her to get back to me, she said to send mine to her. I got nothing for a couple days till she got back to me apologizing because she thought she had sent hers. No big deal she sent hers after I asked for it (this was Friday) she is still spotty about getting back to me from this point on however, Monday night we talked on the phone and she seemed to hint that she wanted to meet up. I texted her yesterday got a one sentence response, responded to that and got nothing. What I want to know is should I just chock this up as a loss as she’s not interested or is she just a really bad texter? I’m awful at reading signals when dating and I’m trying to improve.
She’s probably talking to a bunch of other people and forgot about you, that doesn’t mean it’s a loss. If you have her #, at least suggest a date.
Hey, I don’t know if you’d be interested, but this new coffee place/bar opened up and it might be fun if we meetup for a coffee/drink, what are you doing Saturday?
She’s probably talking to 5 other guys at the same time. It’s pretty common.
Woman I’m talking to rarely texts me and if it is it is pretty short and to the point. Only time she really engages in dialogue is when we’re scheduling dates. If it means anything, we have our 5th planned for tomorrow. I got my first kiss on the last one, in which she reached out to me to plan.
So, my initial opinion is she’s not into you. My next is, have you tried to set up a date with her? I don’t mean « Hey, we should hang! », I mean, « Hey, I’m going to grab a drink at ___ on Thursday night, you should join me! » From there, it should be pretty clear where she stands. If she doesn’t want to go, at least you have something to do that night.
If you’re just texting her to small talk, she’s going to lose interest at this stage. There’s absolutely nothing physically connecting you at this point, so she will likely just forget about you. Be more assertive next time and keep texting to setting up plans or throwing little inside jokes periodically that don’t require a response (this shows you are thinking about her but not expecting to be in constant dialogue with her, which is needy behavior).
It’s a loss. Move along, sir. 🙂