Dating : Need advice on what to talk about on dates
Hi everyone, I’m a 24 year old male who moved to the US about 10 months ago from India for my grad studies.
A bit of background about myself:
I was in a long term (8 and a half years), long distance relationship until about a year and a half back. Since the break up, I’ve been using dating apps and I haven’t been on dates with anyone apart from the people I match with on there. Now from my experience with dating apps in India, it was extremely common and more like the norm for me to text someone for a few days (even weeks) before I actually met them. After coming to the US, I noticed that people are a lot more forward and would more often than not want to go out within a few exchanges (if I do get replies and don’t get ghosted, that is lol).
Because of this, I have a much lower comfort level on first dates in the US and I am often clueless about what to talk about, since I’m largely an introvert. And not so surprisingly, the only two girls I’ve been on more than one date with in the US, I had texted them quite a bit before we met.
I would really appreciate advice on what to talk about on spontaneous dates. Most of the first dates are about us getting to know what each other do and like and not like and they have not really been exciting. To be honest, I felt like texting for longer periods of time would’ve saved me a lot of those first dates.
PS. The post got longer than expected but I hope it gives you good context.