Dating : Our « thing » was a joke all along
There’s a girl at work who I thought liked me. She’d give me some subtle hints and our coworkers would act like she liked me. Turns out it was all just a joke…and I fell for it.
Today I asked her friend in private if this girl still liked me (because I was thinking about asking her out now that she’s quitting). The friend looked confused, like she didn’t know what I was talking about, as she couldn’t understand the implication that this girl actually liked me at some point. That’s when she told me it was just a joke one of the cooks started and she played along with, regardless of whether this girl actually liked me. You people were goading me to her and calling me « her man » and stuff when she was around! I looked like such a fool. Now this friend knows I actually like this girl too, and who knows what she’ll do with that information.
What’s worse, now I’m back at square one. This girl gave me hope that I might find a partner again, but it was a just a misconception on my part all along. Now I’m back to having no hope of finding anyone – no leads. Oh well, at least I found this out BEFORE I took the risk of asking her out, since I would have been rejected flat on my face.
I’m sad now…
Honestly, what is the worst thing they could do with the knowledge that you were into someone?
They can’t blackmail you.
They can’t get you fired.
They can’t destroy your career.
They can’t use it to stop you from finding a new job.
Literally the only thing they can do is remind you that you were into someone. Not a lot of power there.
Even if she liked you asking other people in the work environment is gonna make you super beta. You say it’s good because now you don’t look like an idiot asking her out but that actual experience would’ve done you a lot more then taking the pansy way out.
Dude this is actually a great opportunity. You have to act like you don’t care though, which might be hard. Act like you know the joke… but now you OWN the joke. You can just turn things right back at her and troll her the way she trolled you. Maybe even take it a bit further. For example, ask her « What should I wear to our date this weekend? » in front of your coworkers. When she says something to you, reply with « Hey lady, stop sexually harassing me! »… loud enough for coworkers to hear.