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Dating : Performance anxiety

Dating : Performance anxiety


Hey guys,

So I’ve struggled with PA (performance anxiety) for a long while and unfortunately it reared its ugly head yet again.

Been seeing this gorgeous girl (my type) for a few weeks now and today I went over to hers. Talked, cuddled, touching and fondling and I was rock hard. She said “fuck me” and “get a condom” and once again my mind goes to poo and I try to put the condom on my soft penis :/

She wasn’t really impressed particularly because she wasn’t in the mood for sex initially but when I turned her on, I couldn’t perform so she was upset about me turning her on then off.
At this point, I just told her all about my anxiety blah blah, we still cuddled and spooned and tried again but I couldn’t get hard after that.

Eventually I got hard but she just wanked me off. I did oral and fingering on her too.

I’m worried I’m gonna lose her because things were going well and I couldn’t get hard. I don’t know how patient she’ll be.

I’ve been on nofap for so long but just don’t know how to get over my PA. It always comes up when it’s a girl I really like or care about.

If it’s a girl idgaf my PA is gone. I tried to not care about her but it didn’t work.

Any tips on getting over it?

What do you think?

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  1. First off the nofap thing doesn’t actually do anything. There’s no science that backs that up. If you want to masturbate then do it. If not then don’t. Just make sure its YOUR decision.

    Second, this sounds like it’s just nerves and I can relate 100%. Alot of men can. It gets better and easier with practice, patience, and self forgiveness. The more you do it the easier it gets. I know from experience.

    Third, if this girl leaves you because of this then she’s not compatible with you and is frankly just selfish. The right girl will be patient and supportive. You can still do other things besides PIV. You might even find an activity that gets you hard and keeps you hard that you didn’t think of before.

  2. Are you in the US? You can get generic viagra for like $2 a pill. Check out the sites like roman, hims, etc. I’ve dealt with the same and this was an incredibly efficient fix.

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