Dating : Pre first date; Texts included
OK. We match on Tinder, text every other day – good for a couple hours, fizzles out. I text again after a couple days.
We all set to meet. This happens
I notice this was sent at midnight however, struck me as odd (Child Care for a dog?!)
Anyways, knew the weather would be rubbish all day (heavy winds and rain) and wouldn’t be able to organise anything really.
Asking for a second opinion, should I make some effort and carry on the conversation, or leave it? My minds 60/40 really.
Cheers
I have no idea what either of you are saying
Yeah. Give her another chance. If she flakes second time then move on.
It kinda sounds like the place you chose was too far away, but she would’ve been down to do something that didn’t take as long. So maybe you jumped the gun by cancelling instead of asking her if she wanted to do something closer? I don’t know what think escape is or how far away it is. Your first date should be something quick though.
Her dog could be old or sick and may someone to take care of it around the clock.. If she’s just using it to get out of the date, then she’s being a child but I can see it as a legitimate reason
Think a second chance is fine, seemed like she was a little disappointed. Perhaps meet somewhere close for both of you and if she flakes out then you know she was full of crap.
Are you setting firm date/time or just sort-of-maybe plans for doing something?
Is she suggesting a redo or just « can’t make it » then leaving it? This is a sign she’s altogether keen in actually meeting up right now.
In this situation I’d go with « all good, let me know when your schedule clears up and you’ve got a time when you’ll be free » leave it at that. Don’t message afterwards, leave the ball in her court to contact you when she wants to.
There’s definitely a good chance she wasn’t flaking on you but just wanted to meet somewhere closer. Your response makes it seem like you’re not that interested, so you should take the initiative and ask her out again if you’re still interested. If she flakes out this time, I’d forget her.
Don’t bother carrying on the conversation.
Ask her out again, if she flakes, dead it.