Dating : Probably the wrong place to post this
So back in February my girlfriend of 4 years left me. She left and took my daughter with her. After a little court battle we got 50/50 custody. I’ve tried using online dating to get back in but I can’t shake the fact that I still miss my ex. It’s been 4 months now shouldn’t I be able to just move on and start over? It just hurts to be alone all the time. I went from coming home from work and spending time with her and my daughter everyday to only seeing my daughter 2X a week and every other weekend. I just feel like I’m missing half of me. I loved her and she left because I didn’t go to church and her parents didn’t like me. I know there has to be more behind it and I guess I’m just venting. I just wish I could get over her.
I didn’t have a child but my ex-wife and high school sweetheart of nearly 15 years left me about 3 or 4 years ago and I’m still not over it if I’m being honest with myself. People grieve in different ways and at different speeds. Don’t force yourself to date if you feel you still need time. In the end you’ll get there and that’s the important thing. Not how long it took.
It sounds like you’re not really ready give it a little longer because the pain is clearly still strong
You had a 4 yr relationship. You’re not going to get over her in 4 months. Give it at least 8 months to a year, you’re not ready to date yet. I was devastated when my ex H filed for divorce. It took me 2 1/2 years to get to a point where I felt comfortable enough to date. I know it hurts like crazy right now but I promise you time will dull the pain. Lean on family and friends, be kind to yourself, make memories with your daughter.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’re grieving and that takes time.
Honestly, no – you shouldn’t just be able to move on. If you could, you weren’t invested in the relationship in the first place.
Maybe hold off on the dating for a bit. Focus on yourself and your time with your daughter.