Dating : Pursuing casual sex an an average looking guy?
Is there any point at trying to have sex outside of a relationship if I’m facially average? Im in shape, dress well and I think I have a decent personality but my face isn’t anything to right home about, (im planning on getting cosmetic surgery to fix that when I have the money).
Im in college now and going into the military after I graduate, I don’t want to get into a relationship with an expiration date but I still want to try sex and dating.
Can I do this if I’m not an 8/10 in the face?
Yes. I’ve had great fwb-encounters, short and long term, with average looking guys. Our communication and preferences in bed matched. That was enough.
I know I’m a stranger but bro, please don’t get plastic surgery/rearrange your face
Yep.
My friends always tease me that I like ‘ugly’ men because I go for features rather than the overall pretty face, and I literally go crazy for accents/good writing style, quick wit, and smooth flirting.
There have been occasions where I’d bring someone home and my flatmate(s) would say ‘omg, really?’ or I’d hear stuff like ‘you can do so much better than that’.
Now, I am not saying this to brag about how pretty I am, or to say those me were truly ugly, they weren’t and I am not *that* gorgeous but I am above average and they were…average.
They had other qualities but also other flaws like insecurity about the way they look which became very annoying and tiring because, for some of them, it was a source of great insecurity and caused many issues in the relationship(s) as I received a lot of attention from both men and women.
The point is, you can and will find women interested in you for other things but beware of your insecurity. If you are really so unhappy about the way you look that you are considering surgery, maybe invest in therapy first.
Go for people who you think match your level of attractiveness and you’ll be fine. If you go for chicks hotter than you, probably not
Yeah. Most men are not OMG gorgeous. Most men are “average” but they can still be incredibly attractive. You should change if you want but not “so girls will like you”. But it’s your body/face, so ultimately it’s your decision. A lot of it is personality. I’m a sucker for a dark complexion, accent or sense of humor. And long hair. Human beings aren’t binary creatures.
Yes
Honestly, yeah. You should be able to do it no problem. Can’t speak from college experience yet, as this will be my first year going to campus, but man, i had one friend in HS who was pretty ugly (no joke). He racked up about 5-6 bodies. The girls definitely weren’t supermodels by any means, but 2ish were average-slightly above average. Till this day i don’t know how he did it. Maybe because he was tall? was good at sports? Who knows. It’s definitely possible though. Especially if you’re funny. You definitely don’t need any surgery though.
Confidence and a sense of humor is all you need. Hit the gym and get some guns and it’s overkill. Simple to say, difficult to execute but you got it
The uniform will get you far, my man
IDK mate for us it feels like pursuing casual sex is almost as hard as getting in a relationship with half the pluses
Men overall have a hard time dating …just control what you can man. Get your money up, work on your game and join some groups to increase your overall attractiveness( especially in college). Your probably already ahead of a lot of guys getting casual sex, your just doubting yourself. And if you have a » average face » why would you need surgery, I am confused ??
Bro why tf would you get surgery? Dont do that shit my guy. Better to improve yourself the natural and make amends with that.
I found girls like confidence and performance more than a good looking face. Just be honest with your intentions and you’ll be alright.
For sure homie, you’re already a few legs up on your competition. Go for it.
yes i can say from experience as an average looking guy of average height. Online dating is great for this
Yes. Looks are subjective. Personally I want someone that is fun to be around and I that I can hold a conversation with. You said your in shape. If someone went for looks first, that could be an initial attraction to you as well.
I want to know exactly what about your face you plan on rearranging via surgery? Please and thanks
If your in college you should be able to have tons of casual sex. Like literally just go to a party
Bro an 8/10 doesn’t not need surgery
Women can smell confidence and panache off a guy. You don’t need to be a Zack Efron or George Clooney.
ru joining as an officer?
Incels have really swarmed this group, like what do you even mean “If I’m facially average” you do realize most people are average looking, right? Your situation is not special
Most men are pretty average looking but can still pull women. There’s somebody for everybody. Believe in yourself.
I say if you’re going to do any plastic surgery, it should be for you and not others. Many women like specific facial features so you may attract some with this change and turn others away, who knows? But if you’re in good shape and have a good personality, it’ll come. Once you start traveling, you’ll really notice. You might just meet your wife in another country like many military men continue to do. Fact, military men date interracial and other cultures more often than military women.
Self-confidence, sprinkled with well placed humor, intelligence, good conversation, plus being a good person is always getting a blue ribbon. If you’re grading yourself looks wise, I would say there maybe something else to review. Ask someone who you trust and is honest. Let me add, if you’re going in the military, please be 100% transparent. Please don’t be selfish because you wanna get laid.
Did you know that according to the World Health Organization people who cant find sex is now considered disable?
So here is dating magic and it is true work on you any way you need to work on talking to women Learn how to talk to them as a person like you don’t really care if they like you or don’t but you just want to know about them. Thirsty guys can be seen a mile away and it’s a big turn off to girls. Get yourself a female wing man lesbian is fine and y’all go out hunting together the girl will put the other girls at ease and you and your wing man be there to support each other and help build each other up. I had a great wingwomen and later I found out she was lesbian and she taught me so much about getting into the psychology of a woman. It doesn’t matter what you look like. Your probably over critical of yourself. That said if it will make you feel better surgery is up to you but work on all the other stuff as well. If you can’t get a woman wingman find the most attractive tall alpha and you can be his wing man and you can get girls just because your with him
Don’t get the plastic surgery. It may end up looking very obvious. I’ve seen a guy get work done and he honestly looked better naturally.
I don’t know you but please don’t get plastic surgery. You’re not a woman you’re a man, just become rich or funny and you won’t die alone
Go for it.
You’re unique. Why mess with perfection?
Charisma, proximity, couple of salads once in a while
Ok, let me explain someting that I’ve learned long ago.
EVERYONE is gorgeous to someone… looks are hardly standardized. Just go for it. Somebody wants you.