Dating : Regret
Honestly, I regret dating. I didn’t start dating till I was actually 18 years old and I had my first kiss when I was 18. I was never interested in dating most of my teenage years. I just wish I never got interested into dating and relationships. It’s been nothing but a mess and I just feel this is a horrible generation to be dating in. I understand that as a woman I’m going to attract a lot of guys and I’m going to attract a lot of the wrong guys. But, it’s gotten to the point where I’m just tired of being heartbroken and I’m tired of dealing with BS from the opposite sex. It’s been over a decade of just drama and me feeling sorry for myself.I’ve been single for almost 4 years now and recently this summer I put in a bit more effort into the dating world. It’s been horrible. I used a few dating apps and I also used the meet-up app to join a hobby/club that I’m interested in and met people there, and even that was horrible. I’m seriously starting to think that there is no one out there for me and I’m just going to take a step back and focus on my career. Continue on with my hobbies and interest and just finally close this chapter in my life. Because, I know my worth and I have standards and I refuse to lower my standards. I’ve done that in the past and I wasn’t happy so I won’t do it again.
> I just wish I never got interested into dating and relationships.
What was the alternative?
> It’s been over a decade of just drama and me feeling sorry for myself.
This seems to be the main problem…that you simply feel sorry for yourself. You must know that this isn’t very productive.
>I’ve been single for almost 4 years now and recently this summer I put in a bit more effort into the dating world. It’s been horrible. I used a few dating apps and I also used the meet-up app to join a hobby/club that I’m interested in and met people there, and even that was horrible
Well did you improve as a person, or did you just go into the summer with the same mindset you’ve always had? If so, of course its going to suck. All you’ve said is that everything is horrible. How did you expect it to go on dating apps that predominantly cater to hookup culture? You had a meetup, it sucked…and so thats it? Your « this is horrible » mindset is def seeping into you personality and vibe…which is a huge problem when trying to be attractive.
> I’m seriously starting to think that there is no one out there for me and I’m just going to take a step back and focus on my career. Continue on with my hobbies and interest and just finally close this chapter in my life. Because, I know my worth and I have standards and I refuse to lower my standards. I’ve done that in the past and I wasn’t happy so I won’t do it again.
Right, raise your standards. Low standards get you weak results.
Focus on everything else you enjoy, put dating in the back seat. Thats fine. No chapter to close, just take a timeout and regroup.
Stop dating jerks and bad boys, which is obviously what you’re doing. Date decent men, even if you have to lower your “standards.”
I don’t really know what to say to help as I don’t think there’s anything I could possibly say to make it all feel better but my dad felt the same way and he met someone at 44 years of age. He thought he would never love or be loved ever again after my biological mother and he found someone that still makes him giggle when she winks at him from across the room. There are people out there that are just as tired of the games as you are and that will make you believe in love again. Hope this helps a little at least. x