Dating : She doesn’t initiates the texts or replies enthusiastically like she used to. But when we are together its al fine.
Okay so me[21M] and this girl[24F] been dating for around 7 months. Exclusivity is there but not « officially » dating. We used to hit it off quiet often and she used to initiate texts and reply back to me enthusiastically. Though I’d initiate texts as well, which felt like 50/50 effort back then. But for last 2 months it’s like it’s just me initiating all the texts and she just replies in short texts but when we plan to go out for a date or something, she is always down for it. Never said no. There everything feels okay like we talk shit and do stuff. But at that point it also feels like she’s not being intimate like she used to. Back then she would kiss outta nowhere, but now it’s gone. But I know for sure that she is only seeing/dating me right now and not some other dude behind my back.
And one night she had drunken said « I love you ». :/
I don’t know what to make out of this situation. I tried asking her if everything is alright between us. She replied me saying yes, if there had been any problem she’d have let me know right away. Even the sex is like really less now, intimacy is not there no more. And I dont wanna sound needy asking for sex or anything but these are somethings that you just notice when happens and it bothers me.
Any advise on what could be the issue and what to do?
Tl’dr – dating this girl for 7 months, she doesnt reply as enthusiastically as she used to and doesn’t initiate texts no more. Even that she doesnt kiss until I do.
> been dating for around 7 months. Exclusivity is there but not « officially » dating.
What does this even mean? Dating for 7 months but not officially dating?
Whatever the hell that is, you where just someone keeping her company. Move on with your life and stop giving time to people who dont really care about you.
been there, won’t put up with it again. Both of you need to either be a full partner in a relationship or end it.
You have to kill her
Maybe literally say these things? But I mean you’ve been dating for a while and this kind of thing generally happens in all relationships I think.
if things are otherwise good, then it just means you probably have to adjust to a new and different way that she is handling the texting. one thing being a little off in the relationship isn’t the bad thing..it’s when many things are all coming together. eg she doesn’t talk to you, she doesn’t text you, she doesn’t seem to enjoy being close to you or want you to touch her, etc
that’s when there could be something more going on.
you should also clarify about being exclusive if that’s what you want. and if she says, that’s not what she wants, then just end it. you two aren’t at the same place for a relationship.
Maybe now that the initial honeymoon phase is gone, she might just have less attraction/interest in you.
Doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you or wants to see you, but those initial flames have dulled .
first off stop all that texting shit…. call your girl
compliment her….. sweet talk her…. don’t just expect her to show you love… who tf are you to deserve any tlc
plan dates…..
be all on her…..
show her you wanna be next to her……
you ain’t doing shit to show her that you glad she chose you……