Dating : Should I let my girlfriend do stuff for me? How do I get her to still feel empowered while doing it?
Hello it’s me again. I have done advice on past post’s, and it’s wonderful. We compromise now instead of me just agreeing with her, and sex wise she loves the feedback(it actually makes her even more happy that I’m enjoying it). All is well, but one area I need some help on.
It’s about her doing stuff for me. Not like l learned to compromise, but her actually doing stuff for me. Ever since you guy’s advice on being my own person, and enjoying sex too, she is way more happy & loving. Just that now she’s doing stuff for me. Just recently she bought me a comic book collection, and a new video game. Most importantly she made me some latin food (she is hispanic) when I got home from hanging out with my friends.
It’s not like i’m not doing stuff for her too, but ever since I took people’s advice, she wants to do stuff for me now. I’m not sure on what to do, I don’t want to misuse her or anything. I still care about my girlfriend of 3 years, and I really appreciate it. I just don’t know what to do now. Should I tell her to tone it down, or should I let give me stuff in the relationship too? I still want her to have female empowerment, not giving stuff to her man (me). Any solution, tip, or advice would be really nice. Thank you reddit for the advice last time, it was really worth it.
If there was ever a time to talk about bringing more people into the bedroom now would be it.
Do you like her doing stuff for you and you just feel guilty? Or do you not really like it?
If it’s the latter, I would talk to her about it. If it’s the former, I would just enjoy and appreciate it. Personally I love doing stuff for my bf, showing him I care about him. Some people are just givers and it truly brings us joy seeing the people we love happy.
It’s one of the ways women show love. She is doing it because she is feeling loved and fulfilled.
I can be an issue though if she starts to feel like it’s one sided. Like she might start overdoing it because she starts feeling like she’s getting less from you.
A woman won’t stop giving. Instead she will give more because she feels like something is wrong and that’s her instinctive way of trying to fix it.
If that happens and there is poor communication, she will start resenting you.
Maybe just let her know as much as you really appreciate everything she does that you don’t expect it and she obviously doesn’t have to.
Try to pick up on clues she gives on ways you can show her love.
If you haven’t read the 5 love languages, I recommend it.
You could give 100% of yourself but the other person doesn’t perceive it as love because they have a certain love language.
I want an hispanic girlfriend too. I miss eating enchiladas.